Feeling Embarrassed and Insecure After Talking Too Much

Oh god yes, plus my autism prevents me from picking up on the social cues that would signal me to stop. I just double down. I can clear a room talking about Return of the Living Dead

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yes 100x. also this gets really bad for me in presentations, when I feel pressured to sound coherent and make interesting points but I sort of need to go on tangents in order to do that? then if there’s a time limit to the presentation it’s even more embarrassing. I’ve totally been shut down by people before for not being aware of how much time I’m taking up. still trying to find a way to get better at this.

It's convenient that you're going to state that you will ignore this, and all to the point that: you cannot understand what you do not read .. which is exactly why you have found yourself in this predicament of not understanding the directly-stated objective and rules of this platform in the first place. You should read more. Knowledge is power. 🙏

Lesson 2: #RTFM Chapter 1 §1: Awareness You clearly are under the wrong impression of what this place was built and exists for, meaning by deductive reasoning that you did not understand the purpose of the app you downloaded and installed; and to further point—you are being hypocritical with your baseless and accusatory language you're directing at me to paint me as an aggressor of your character to drum up some sort of..? I don't even know... support for yourself by viewers of the interaction as a martyr of the cause of this app which you're misinterpreting? What was your objective with all that misplaced passive aggression? Chapter 1 §2: Breaking It Down The (Apple and Android, both) App Store listing for this platform has a number of "Screenshots" posted at the very top, use directly as marketing materials to particularly convey the purpose of their product, as per usual for phone apps. Along with the TOS, I'm assuming from your own statements that this is something you did not read, because within the first three images which are always fully visible when viewed from any platform are written the following (again, verbatim): "When it comes to health, it's a matter of finding the right crowd. Alike's seamless crowdsourcing platform and built-in privacy provides a remarkable space where patients have a chance to find their own right crowd." and: "Get advice in an anonymized space" Read the chapter's contents, and then repeat them aloud to yourself before joining class discussion in our review. You will be quizzed on your understanding of the material. Chapter 2: Understanding the Content The language that app creators decided quite pointedly to use: "...where patients have a chance to find their own right crowd" in no way implies that you have a right to spout off anywhere and say whatever you want with whatever level of disrespect, and never feel your ego challenged or your new-agey feelings to be contradicted. Contrary to what your mentors have apparently taught you: you do not have a right to never feel bad, nor do you have a right to berate other people for asking honest questions about a subject which you raised on a proverbial soapbox in a literal public forum. You can take that attitude elsewhere, it's expressly not wanted here. Honest questions and/or advice about the statements you made and information which you have filled out—for public view—about yourself are exactly what this space is for. If you cannot handle that or are emotionally unable to read words on a screen without feeling bouts of rage would you must cast at other people who share the same space which you would allegedly wish to be an inviting and happy space, then you should uninstall the app until your maturity meets your mentality. Chapter 3: Read The Actual Words As Written Nowhere in any of my comments to you here did I instruct you to take medication, nor tell you that you should nor in any way with any actual words used present the idea that you should and attempt to pressure you into taking medication which you don't deem necessary. I asked you why not, because you had a clearly solid opinion on the matter. A large crowd of people whose feelings contradict yours (the word "contradict" here means "exist in opposition to", not "attack you about"; and THAT means "are opposite of", not "stand against your ideology with negative attitude and connotation", since you literally need everything spelled out to avoid misinterpretation—I thought I would supply the content for clarity) exist in this space where you posted the idea and it is being openly discussed in this public forum. The elaboration on the concept could help others in one way or another; the question is not futile, nor is it an attack on your character.

I—again, to re-iterate my previous, short statement which you misunderstood in pre-queued anger—in no way made any attack as you so hypocritically felt the need to accuse me of in a directly disrespectful way, and I ended the short comment asking you not to do exactly what you did: http://lmgtfy.com/?q=build+a+straw+man The aggressive attitude in sentence after sentence finished with a directly passive-aggressive comment is an awkward way to approach "kindness," Sleepysleeps. I said nothing condescending? It looks like you need some education, which you may somehow turn into something you use to attack me, judging from your blatant ★attitude problem★ displayed in your responses. ...But it's meant as both an honest attempt to stand you beside your actions so you may see them and avoid repeating them to undeserving individuals in the future, and an attempt to help you understand the purpose of this place which you so deeply misunderstand in your outrage for someone using it as intended. Understanding Your Place 101 Lesson 1: Reaping What You Sow Chapter 1: The Golden Rule Know your place, understand others will speak when spoken to, and don't be unnecessarily rude in response to things you quite literally asked for. Posting here is asking openly for response from any angle on the subject matter, that's what "crowdsourcing" is. If you actually knew everything about what you were making subject of, you wouldn't feel need to be here. You posted to a public forum which literally exists to "crowdsource" support *and advice*, and that's NOT a subjective interpretation. It's directly stated by the app creators, used in their marketing imagery, and exemplified by the fact that any "post" submission is referred to as a "question" by the app language itself. I will quote here, to shine light through the shadow of your ego: When you follow the prompts to send a message to the subscribing public who populate this space— "Write here your question, share your thoughts, or introduce yourself" is the verbatim "prompting text" within the post body's text field.

Also, if you are just trying to pick a fight, I will not participate. Respond with anything other than kindness and you will be ignored. Have a nice day 💕

SAMHAIN. I guess you didn’t read my whole post either. Never once did I ask for advice. Never once did I mention I wanted to be on medication. Please take your unsolicited nonsense elsewhere. This is meant to be a supportive and loving community so please don’t speak to me with such condescending behavior.

Who's pushing, Sleepy? I guess you didn't read my whole post. Sorry you're feeling sensitive about the basic question. 💕 Don't build straw men pls.

@SAMHAIN I’m aware of this. It’s still not worth it for me. I didn’t post this to be pushed into medication, I posted this to feel less alone while I naturally cope with my symptoms.

I literally apologized to my therapist for talking so much. She was like, uhhh that’s kinda the point. Lol.

I always feel like I’m being annoying when I talk a lot. I talk loud and sometimes I find myself annoying.

OP— (first off please note I'm autistic, things often come off as rude but it's never meant to be. My tone is terrible through text) You say ”these meds" as if there is only one. There are at least two classes of medication, if not three or four, which can be used to approach the problems of executive function and attention management with ADHD. Are you aware of this?

✋Same!! I am working on trying to limit how much I say, how fast I talk, and especially trying to decide if what I have to say is helpful or just noise because my busy brain won't shut up. lol

I always talk too much without realizing it. I would medicate but I’ve tried pretty much all of them and the side effects were horrible and I couldn’t be myself. I worry if I take them I will lose my friends.

@SAMHAIN I absolutely hate the side effects of these meds so I stopped taking it. It just wasn’t worth it to me.

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The medication does wonders for that, also allows you to recognize that you are going on tangent mid-speech so you can truncate it and bring things back before people recognize. Me personally, also got rid of most of my SI and treatment resistant depression of 25 years. Your Meatsack May Vary. How come you're diagnosed but not treating?