Inezz

169d

Today had gotten me so down Is it just me or does anyone else have a 15 year old daughter that’s just being an ass n mean lately 🥺my daughter turns 15 this weekend and I’ve been busting my ass to make the day special considering the fact that we have had a rough last 7 years with my mom passing and so on she’s always been a good kid always respectful but lately she’s been brutally honestly and it’s not like her I guess I’m just hurt by words and venting although I don’t show it to them I’m sitting in my bathroom crying as I’m “taking bath” whoever said sticks and stones will break your bones but words won’t ever hurt you is A GOT DAMM LIAR!!!!😭

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  • RoseJay

    169d

    I have 15 yr old son. He gets mean and tell it like it is. He can be a big handful sometimes then be so sweet other times

    • Inezz

      169d

      I don’t understand where the attitude is going from like everything I ask of her to do is a hassle a fight a roll of the eyes I’m like what the hell

      • Fire101

        169d

        we need to be vent buddies!!!! My 11 year old tortures me on a daily basis I mean she will go out her way to come mess with me and be mean. We try to give our kids everything we think they deserve and turns out we give them too much and spoil them because theyve never had to work for anything ever...

  • Fire101

    169d

    Is your child an only child, first, middle or the baby

    • Inezz

      168d

      only child she’s actually turned 15 today

  • TaetaeRyn

    169d

    When kids act out, especially teenagers, it comes from not having one of their emotional needs met. If your daughter has different needs then you—or then you did at her age—it can feel like a personal attack since it’s not something you would’ve done. Try to see things from her perspective if you can, and have a talk with her about what’s going on. Try to be understanding because she will be more likely to open up if she doesn’t feel like you’re blaming her. If you can figure out what need isn’t being met and find a compromise, it could help the situation.

    • Fire101

      169d

      i agree whole heartedly. Sometimes it can be quite difficult to figure out the problem they are having but the best medicine is love and kindness, even when they cant show it back

      • Squishlover

        168d

        ya I agree when my daughter was like this I would just say hey I love you. she would frown or roll her eyes but it showed her I love her even when she's being a jerk

    • Inezz

      168d

      that’s the thing she knows that if something is bothering her or needs to talk I ask her or let her come to me I’ve learned if that I keep pushing and asking it only pushes her further away from me .

  • Ria_Sis

    169d

    Yes but now my daughter is 22 it’s worse

  • JingleP

    169d

    Aw im sorry teenagers can be a pain even if you take the best care of them. She’s probably going through the teenage stuff, or maybe something happening outside the home. It’s still not fair that you have to be on the receiving end. I hope you could talk to her and tell her your feelings and she will try to tone it down or be more aware of her words.

  • Trench

    168d

    I've had a couple teenage daughters. Each were difficult in their own ways. But, one was very much like you say, always just mean for no reason. She's almost 20, now. And still a pain in the butt. Just remember, you're the adult. They may act like they run things, but you have to put on a show of authority. Well, anyway, that's what I have to do in my house. Everyone is different. But, regardless of anything else, you gotta find a system that works. Maybe therapy to help explore what it is you need to do. Someone above mentioned needs not being met. That may be. Though, some kids just act entitled and they think they deserve everything while contributing nothing. Then again, maybe the need they have there is really just some discipline? I don't know. I'm no therapist. Just here to say, you're not alone. In fact, I think what you're going through is probably more common than not.

  • Squishlover

    168d

    kids are jerks at that age. my daughter used to telle not to look at her talk to her or basically think about her. it passed she may just be dealing with friend issues or boy issues. that was my daughter. now she's 19 and she talks to me more about her issues

  • Denotchka

    168d

    I think back to when I was 15, and I was just getting ready to go to regular high school classes because I had been in a school for the disabled and by the time I 16, years old, I was convinced that my dad was a jerk. Of course he didn’t help the situation by isolating me socially. I don’t think I really understood how to normally socialize as a result and what was “ normal “ vs. not “normal “ be careful if you have a child with a disability. Also make sure that they aren’t getting bullied and taking it out on you. Always communicate with them and let them know that you love them no matter what happens.

    • Trench

      168d

      I'll agree with this... Communication definitely helps in most matters. Sometimes, we just gotta sit down and really talk it out, get to understand one another. Good philosophy for people beyond just your teens, too.

  • Reallyhopeful

    168d

    😥 I hear you! I had four boys and I learned a lot and given the fact that I have been in counseling most of my life! Young people at that age are going through a very hard time of it, because they are partly reliant on you, but they long to do things on their own, in their own way. They need a lot of patients right now, but mostly, they need boundaries! If they don't have boundaries, they will go so far as to do everything they know that you don't want them to do. They will test your patients as far as you let them. Also, she may still be dealing with the pain as bad as you are. In my book, the last thing you should do right now, is cry and keep your pain hidden from her. She needs to see your pain in order to know that it's ok to hurt and cry sometimes. Crying is a way in which we heal. I hope you understand what I mean. God bless

  • Fire101

    168d

    my child is spoiled rotten and she 😥 thinks she deserves everything while literally contributing nothing... Just like you said 😥 my nickmame was super mom... I was "amazing" with my oldest.... Now that im older i realize i overcomphensated for her dad being who he is im not gonna get into that... I try to disipline my daughter. For instance, her 1 chore was take out the trash daily. She forgot the bag every single time almost even after i suggested putting a new one in after taking the old one out but before taking it outside to the dumpster. She would literally put her trash in the overflowing trash can and have to be told to take it out 2-3 times before doing so. So i got fed up... And changed her chore to dishes.... DAILY DISHES to be exact.... I have to fight her for 3 days and force her to do them.... Im about at my wits end. I love her i dont want her to grow up and be trashy. I tried so hard....😢😢😢😢😢 but i did too much for her as a baby. And the way her dad disrespects me and leaves his messes for me and allows our youngest to do it because HE will never admit it but oldest and i both know shes his favorite. He lets her torture us both daily and tells us to deal with it shes just a kid (7 in November) BUT if oldest acted like that at youngest's age he would be up my a$$ sideways to get her to act right and stop bothering people. It is clear favoritism, which is abuse in my book.

  • tiramisu

    167d

    When I was a teenager I was living with my narcissistic father and my stepmother who showed favoritism to only her children, I had to do all of the chores, my siblings didn't have to (I was the youngest) my parents energy and the way they treated me showed that they didn't care about me. I tried so hard to be the best. And it was awful. Being a perfectionist killed me and gave me anxiety. Some kids are awful and terrible. But don't shit on them for it because they'll grow up knowing they're loved. Just talk to them, and if they don't want to listen, then let them do the talking. Being a teenager is difficult, and I think sometimes adults forget that

  • Inezz

    167d

    It’s crazy because to do the dishes is putting them in dish washer I’m like kid ur getting upset because that technically ur not even washing them the whole argument is well I didn’t make that mess why should I need to clean it well kiddo I changed ur diaper n she said what’s that got to do with this I laugh and say when u shit Al over ur self as a baby I didn’t make the mess but I still cleaned you up lol she walked away puzzled lmfao

    • tiramisu

      167d

      have her realize that she's not going to have someone to take care of her the rest of her life. Try leaving the dishes in the sink and just let them build up, eventually she'll realize you're not going to do them and hopefully she'll do them

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