Struggling with my Teenage Daughter's Behavior

When I was a teenager I was living with my narcissistic father and my stepmother who showed favoritism to only her children, I had to do all of the chores, my siblings didn't have to (I was the youngest) my parents energy and the way they treated me showed that they didn't care about me. I tried so hard to be the best. And it was awful. Being a perfectionist killed me and gave me anxiety. Some kids are awful and terrible. But don't shit on them for it because they'll grow up knowing they're loved. Just talk to them, and if they don't want to listen, then let them do the talking. Being a teenager is difficult, and I think sometimes adults forget that

my child is spoiled rotten and she 😥 thinks she deserves everything while literally contributing nothing... Just like you said 😥 my nickmame was super mom... I was "amazing" with my oldest.... Now that im older i realize i overcomphensated for her dad being who he is im not gonna get into that... I try to disipline my daughter. For instance, her 1 chore was take out the trash daily. She forgot the bag every single time almost even after i suggested putting a new one in after taking the old one out but before taking it outside to the dumpster. She would literally put her trash in the overflowing trash can and have to be told to take it out 2-3 times before doing so. So i got fed up... And changed her chore to dishes.... DAILY DISHES to be exact.... I have to fight her for 3 days and force her to do them.... Im about at my wits end. I love her i dont want her to grow up and be trashy. I tried so hard....😢😢😢😢😢 but i did too much for her as a baby. And the way her dad disrespects me and leaves his messes for me and allows our youngest to do it because HE will never admit it but oldest and i both know shes his favorite. He lets her torture us both daily and tells us to deal with it shes just a kid (7 in November) BUT if oldest acted like that at youngest's age he would be up my a$$ sideways to get her to act right and stop bothering people. It is clear favoritism, which is abuse in my book.

😥 I hear you! I had four boys and I learned a lot and given the fact that I have been in counseling most of my life! Young people at that age are going through a very hard time of it, because they are partly reliant on you, but they long to do things on their own, in their own way. They need a lot of patients right now, but mostly, they need boundaries! If they don't have boundaries, they will go so far as to do everything they know that you don't want them to do. They will test your patients as far as you let them. Also, she may still be dealing with the pain as bad as you are. In my book, the last thing you should do right now, is cry and keep your pain hidden from her. She needs to see your pain in order to know that it's ok to hurt and cry sometimes. Crying is a way in which we heal. I hope you understand what I mean. God bless

kids are jerks at that age. my daughter used to telle not to look at her talk to her or basically think about her. it passed she may just be dealing with friend issues or boy issues. that was my daughter. now she's 19 and she talks to me more about her issues

I've had a couple teenage daughters. Each were difficult in their own ways. But, one was very much like you say, always just mean for no reason. She's almost 20, now. And still a pain in the butt. Just remember, you're the adult. They may act like they run things, but you have to put on a show of authority. Well, anyway, that's what I have to do in my house. Everyone is different. But, regardless of anything else, you gotta find a system that works. Maybe therapy to help explore what it is you need to do. Someone above mentioned needs not being met. That may be. Though, some kids just act entitled and they think they deserve everything while contributing nothing. Then again, maybe the need they have there is really just some discipline? I don't know. I'm no therapist. Just here to say, you're not alone. In fact, I think what you're going through is probably more common than not.

Aw im sorry teenagers can be a pain even if you take the best care of them. She’s probably going through the teenage stuff, or maybe something happening outside the home. It’s still not fair that you have to be on the receiving end. I hope you could talk to her and tell her your feelings and she will try to tone it down or be more aware of her words.

Yes but now my daughter is 22 it’s worse