Hey y’all, I guess I need some advice. Maybe some words of wisdom? So I’m bi, always have been however I’ve always leaned more towards women. Well right now, I’m engaged to a very lovely man and I love him dearly.
While I do find him attractive and love being with him.. I can’t help but think I’m gay. I can’t shake the thought. He believes I’m no longer attracted to him, which I tell him is wrong. I just don’t even know what to think. All I can think about is women. I’ve had a sneaking suspicion for years that I’m actually a lesbian but I’ve ignored it because I do find some attraction with men, albeit not much anymore. But lately, it’s been plaguing my mind and I don’t know how to feel

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  • alyssaryan


    if you want to go on this discovery of finding who you are, please please please make a decision on what you want your relationship to be like with your now partner. you never really know how people will take things especially if the two of you are engaged, make sure it’s a safe space before you make your decision.

  • Soskae


    Preface: I am not saying this is just a phase of a momentary feeling because I am not you and I do not know what you know but this is how it works for me. I am bi but I usually lean more towards a specific gender at any given time. I ended up marrying a man and I have never planned on cheating on him or changing our relationship so this is what I’ve found works for me. When I find myself really craving women I watch lesbian p*rn. That will quench that side of me so I can go back to my emotional connection with him after my sexual desires have been fulfilled. But I’m definitely bi and not lesbian so I think that’s why it works for me. I hope this helps you! Best of luck!!

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