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skyewalker

332d

i can’t decide my sexuality. i am a female i am attracted to men’s general physical appearance, until they take their clothes off. i am attracted to women’s appearance, even with their clothes off. i get crushes on men and women. i typically get crushes on men way more than women. however with women it is usually a much deeper connection (i’ve fallen in love with women, but not men) i am not penetrated by internal stimulation, (vaginal), but i am penetrated by external stimulation. i get turned on with women most regularly, it’s rare for me to be turned on or sexually attracted to a male at all. usually i have to have some sort of emotional connection to them to even get turned on by them, but regardless i will not respond to internal stimulation. it is very confusing to me. i don’t want to lead men on by dating them/confessing feelings but then being uncomfortable having sex/ possibly deciding im a lesbian during our relationship. but i also get crushes on men, often, and more than when i do with women. it’s hard to ignore, i can’t just decide im lesbian and stick with the label because i do get feelings for men. anyone have an answer? possibly something other than “bisexual but sexual preference for women”? because it just doesn’t feel right.

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    • absurdi_T

      319d

      I hear you. I've given up on finding a label because every time I think I've settled on one, there's something that tells me it's not right. I now just call myself "queer" which covers both my gender identity and sexuality. I just am. I don't need to justify myself or be fully set on one identity/sexuality. it's given me a lot of peace, because I can just roll with what happens. I don't have to question if I'm a lesbian when I see an attractive guy, I don't need to question if I'm a man when I'm disgusted by being called a girl. I can just be

    • absurdi_T

      319d

      I hear you. I've given up on finding a label because every time I think I've settled on one, there's something that tells me it's not right. I now just call myself "queer" which covers both my gender identity and sexuality. I just am. I don't need to justify myself or be fully set on one identity/sexuality. it's given me a lot of peace, because I can just roll with what happens. I don't have to question if I'm a lesbian when I see an attractive guy, I don't need to question if I'm a man when I'm disgusted by being called a girl. I can just be

      • skyewalker

        319d

        @absurdi_T thank you so much!

    • Lethe

      332d

      Keep in mind that whatever I say doesn't have to fit. You know you best, and you don't have to be inside any box you don't want to. However, that does sound a bit like biromantic, homosexual. Somebody who feels romantic attraction towards both the same and opposite sex, but sexual attraction towards only the same. You could also replace homosexual with homoflexible. So, most of the time it's only women you're attracted to sexually. But sommmmtimes, you /might/ be attracted to men.

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