Why Doesn't Anything About Me Matter?

I have to say that you are very strong and brave. Thank you so much for sharing this with me.

Thanks. It’s so hard to talk to my manager about because I’m afraid I’ll just break down and start crying in the office. I did confide in a coworker recently and found out she has similar fears we promised to look out for each other. I also contacted our FMLA coordinator about getting some absences excused and being able to take one or two days a month off for anxiety. Meanwhile I am submitting my resume. But I’m trying to build my confidence in saying no and asking people to keep their distance. I know in my head I can walk away whenever I’m uncomfortable but I’m exhausted from being in fight or flight mode all the time! Sorry I hijacked your post! I hoped to help validate your feelings. You have a right to setting safe boundaries and removing yourself from uncomfortable situations!

Sorry you are going through this. Sending hugs and prayers. This is a hard situation because I feel I’d really have to trust someone and know that they really care and are understanding before I ever express something like this. Maybe the disability office can help you get a job you are comfortable with and that are known to work with people that deal with difficult times.

I have past traumas too. I get triggered by loud noises especially men raising their voices. My job is making me go back to working in a busy public environment and sometimes before work I can’t stop crying and I have to call out sick because I can’t drive in that condition. Our needs matter too! I’ve been rehearsing how to say no and set boundaries. I’m trying to better articulate my needs so I can be firm. But really I just want to run away and get a different job.