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Feeling Hopeless About My Future

Slater

569d

I don’t know what to do. I feel like i have no future. I have a job but I don’t have enough money to live on my own or even have $50 in my account for more than a week. My fiancé doesn’t work, they do school full time and it takes up so much of OUR time. I’m scared because we have $0 to our name, there’s no way we’ll be able to move out anytime soon (we both live with their parents). Whenever I try to bring up how we need a plan for our future, it’s just “You’re so depressing to talk to about this, have some hope. I know what our future looks like, you should see it too”. Then how are we supposed to reach our goals without a plan? I wanna move out and start my own life with them. A while back we contemplated killing ourselves together because we both saw no hope in the future. Why are they turning around and saying we have a bright future now? It’s all so confusing. Our relationship hasn’t been good lately because of it. And on top of that, we live in a terrible environment for our mental health. I don’t know what to do. Not being able to see a way to make a future for ourselves makes me suicidal.

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    • Jane30

      567d

      If he is willing to end his life and yours...and is upset everytime you mention your future (because I too love paycheck to paycheck with several disorders) then maybe he isn't the right one...

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    • Jane30

      567d

      If he is willing to end his life and yours...and is upset everytime you mention your future (because I too love paycheck to paycheck with several disorders) then maybe he isn't the right one...

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    • Thehoodedcow

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      I have an idea of how you feel. I've been struggling with suicidal thoughts since I was in middle school. It's a struggle that, unfortunately, a lot of people don't understand. Maybe you could ask your fiance what's giving them hope? It might help you understand where they're coming from. Tell them you're frustrated and why- communication is good in a relationship. Let them know that you want to understand where they're coming from, and let them know where you're at and why. Your future is not determined by how much you own or how much money you have. You were made for a purpose. If God didn't want you here, He never would have made you in the first place. I've been abused, cheated on, given up on, anxious, depressed, suicidal and lonely. The only reason - I can't find another - I'm alive is because God loved me through it. I could say it was this that or the other, but every time I look back, I can't find another reason as solid and evident as that one. God loves you so much. He died BECAUSE He loves you, and He rose from the dead so that He could touch our lives with His love, so that He could let us experience a love we never could imagine otherwise. He loves you SO much. We are all sinners (people who do wrong things) who need the love of Jesus. Believing in Him, that He's God Who died and rose from the dead for those wrong things, is accepting the free gift of abundant love. His love is legit the only reason I'm still alive, pushing through every day. At the end of the day, He's the only reason I'm still standing.

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    • courtnehh

      569d

      I understand about feeling like you have no future. I feel that way sometimes too. But you and your fiancé are both needed in this world. i know that sounds like a line but it’s true. you and your fiancé are very needed in this world. i don’t know if you would want to hear any of my advice because i have been in this situation but if you do, message me and i’ll tell you.

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    • fratboykermit

      569d

      communication with an FP is hard. it feels like everything is so intense, and i always sit there asking "why are you being so mean to me?" when it's a perfectly normal conversation. since this is your fiancé, i'm going to picture that they're the same way my partner is: super open minded and patient. sometimes, you really gotta tell someone "i need to talk about __ because it's weighing really heavily on my mind. but i'm kind of fragile right now, so do you think we can ___?". "i think we need to talk about our future a little bit. i know it's a sore subject, but i can't get it out of my head, and i feel like i can't move past it because it's making me feel hopeless again. since this is a hard topic for both of us, what can we do to make this easier?"

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      • Slater

        569d

        @fratboykermit I feel seen; I ALWAYS think my FP is mad at me. But the thing that makes it difficult is that they actually have anger issues so it makes things more confusing. Yelling, slamming doors, stomping feet, etc. are extremely triggering to me and they know that. But they still can’t help their anger sometimes so I feel like I should give up on communicating so that I don’t start an argument.

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        • fratboykermit

          568d

          @Slater i have the same feelings, for a different reason. my partner shuts down completely, and no matter how much they reassure me and want me to tell them things, i constantly feel like i'm attacking him. i don't know if this is 'safe' for you to bring up, but maybe you can talk about getting a therapist/mental health professional, and maybe you both getting one, so you can both grow as people and therefore strengthen your relationship. i know people with anger issues don't WANT to be angry- i had a mini episode between inpatient admissions where i constantly felt so out of control. maybe you can reach out to them and ask if they need help? because not being suicidal doesn't mean mental health is *that* great. if you get triggered from their behavior, maybe try walking away so they can calm down for a second. "hey, i know you're not trying to get worked up, but i think i need a breather. can we continue in just a second?". those few minutes are usually what changes the course of my conversations from "we are hurting each other and our own feelings" to "let's talk and grow and figure out a solution". sorry my responses are so solution based- i've been going through this for the past few months with my partner, so i feel like i'm just rambling about my own experiences haha. i know everything will work out for you! asking for a little advice gives me confidence that you're going in the right direction.

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    • Slater

      569d

      It’s probably important to note that my fiancé is my FP (favorite person) and I’d kms without them so I’m not gonna take anyone seriously who suggests breaking up

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