Struggling with Gender Identity and Autism/BPD

I’m non-binary and had to accept it as fact because no cis person is just mulling over their gender at the rate that I have. Even if people are curious at some point and figure they’re cis it doesn’t compare to the effort I’ve put into figuring myself out. Also autistic people rejecting gender doesn’t make them less fluid. People reject the concept because it doesn’t feel right to them which is valid. If being cis doesn’t fit into your narrative of yourself that’s fine too

I feel this, but right now I'm going by he/they because I present more masculine. I'm genderfluid though. I've been trying to figure out if it's more autism than bpd because some of my symptoms don't match up with the diagnosis.