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I’m going to a concert tomorrow. Iv seen how girls my age...

Anxiousboarderline

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I’m going to a concert tomorrow. Iv seen how girls my age dress at the type of concert I’m going to and I wanted a similar outfit. I have like 4-5 different outfits I could wear and I absolutely hate all of them! I’m plus size and all the girls I see posting are skinny and they look so good. I’m going with my boyfriend so it’s not like I need to impress anyone but I want to look cute and feel cute. I just had a panic attack because I tried all of them on and I felt disgusting i don’t even want to go anymore. I’m so tired of being fat I’m on meds to help me loose weight (I have PCOS) and I feel like surgery is my next step Bc I HATE my body

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    • RoseChwe

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      Just remember that beauty standards are created by old white men in a board room somewhere. My feminist scholar is gonna come out here. Beauty standards are absolute bullsh**, and they’re a form of control over women that the patriarchy uses! We all socially construct what is “desirable” every day, and it’s never objective. Google ancient Greek statues. Those women have curves, tummies, and all that. There are many cultures and time periods in which “plus size” was the ideal and skinniness was what was undesirable. Even clothing is constantly changing with fleeting trends. At the end of the day we are all mammals on a floating rock and none of it matters at the end of the day! That’s why I say wear what you want for YOU, not for other people. You’ll never please everybody, but what really matters is your relationship with yourself. Don’t let the patriarchy win, fight the power and be you!

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    • Fldreamer

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      😥

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    • SeaGnome43

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      I hope you are able to find something you are comfortable in and feel cute in as well! A couple of years ago I weighed almost 300 lbs. Trying on clothes for me was the opposite of fun. I know what it's like to hate the reflection in the mirror. 😥

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    • RoseChwe

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      Just remember that beauty standards are created by old white men in a board room somewhere. My feminist scholar is gonna come out here. Beauty standards are absolute bullsh**, and they’re a form of control over women that the patriarchy uses! We all socially construct what is “desirable” every day, and it’s never objective. Google ancient Greek statues. Those women have curves, tummies, and all that. There are many cultures and time periods in which “plus size” was the ideal and skinniness was what was undesirable. Even clothing is constantly changing with fleeting trends. At the end of the day we are all mammals on a floating rock and none of it matters at the end of the day! That’s why I say wear what you want for YOU, not for other people. You’ll never please everybody, but what really matters is your relationship with yourself. Don’t let the patriarchy win, fight the power and be you!

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      • talli

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        @RoseChwe love this

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      • Kat124

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        @RoseChwe couldn’t of said it better!

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    • Kat124

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      In my opinion there’s just more of you to love. Stay safe!

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    • Lucilou

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      I weight 310+ and I've come to the realization that I'll never be a skinny as I wanna be 150. I dont have the willpower to do it or the resources. My husband finds me attractive and I accept that although sometimes I think he lies0, "he has too, who would Ike someone as big as I am?!" But girl, flaunt what your mama gave you. I'vegrown to love size 4x shirts cause they're big and comfy. Ill answer the door in them. I'll go to the store in them. Find what makes you comfy and live it.

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    • Expelliarmus1

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      It probably won't help much, but my wife is plus-sized and I honestly find her extremely attractive. There are people out there who are thinking good things about you too.

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    • lilaclemonade

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      I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. I’ve been in your shoes and it hurts so much!! I’ve been plus size my whole life, and not liking how you look is so hard. When i’m having an especially difficult self image day, I remind myself that even if I focus on my “flaws,” no one else will. I’m as much of a blip on the road of their lives as they are on mine, and they won’t remember what I wore nor will I remember what they wore. Do what feels best and most comfortable for you, love. I hope you enjoy the concert <3

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    • KGarrett

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      Body image isn't as much about size, its your perception of your size. I am small, and hated my body, thought I needed to be perfect, wasted so much time worried about what others think, I bet your boyfriend likes you for who you are, and the way you look. Where what your comfortable in. If your goal is to loose weight , figure out why, it is for you or others, is to be healthy or because you want to look like those other girls. Believe me thoses skinny girls have self-esteem issues too, I did. Be the beautiful you.

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      • Anxiousboarderline

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        @KGarrett Iv been big as long As I can remember. I was severely bullied in school and by family Bc of my weight. I have an eating disorder that comes and goes and have panic attacks weekly due to my perception of my self. The only thing I want is to be skinny or at least a lot thinner than I am now. I COMPLETELY get that “skinny” people are self conscious too but I’d rather be skinnier and still self conscious than fat.

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