Effects of Infidelity on Mental Health

I was cheated on by my boyfriend when we were teenagers and I was six months pregnant. Not something you want to walk in on. I lost it and started hitting my now ex-boyfriend, screaming at him after I chased the girl out the room. I even ripped out some of his hair, very not like me because I'm kind of a hippy, very non violent. After that I cried for days. I was already having a difficult pregnancy because I had severe nausea and vomiting throughout my entire pregnancy. I was a mess but thankfully was already being supported by my mom, so when I fell apart it didn't change much. I was just more miserable. I had supportive friends and family that surrounded me and helped me through, but it was especially difficult because my meds were limited due to my pregnancy so I was already having a hard time. It's a very traumatic time in my life and I'm just glad I got my wonderful daughter in the end. And I finally stopped throwing up. 😁 I'm one of those if you don't laugh you'll cry kinda people.

*could NOT resolve it (sorry)

I have been cheated on with my ex-husband, and now with my fiance. My first marriage lasted 23 years, with 4 beautiful children. I stayed for my marriage until my youngest was 17. It wrecked terrible havoc on my self-esteem and part of the reason for my depression, GAD and worsening of my PTSD. My current relationship, I found out through checking his phone, seeing all the messages, and it hurt so bad, it was the day I was hospitalized for sepsis and in the hospital a week and we could resolve it because no visitors during the Covid outbreak. We ended up working things out, I am very forgiving, and yes, it hurt, I doubted myself and everything I learned in DBT and what my Therapist tought me. I am not as trusting as I used to be. My ex husband was almost 15 years older than me, current fiance was a high school crush that reconnected, so I am more forgiving but not 100% trusting. We have been through so so much and our relationship is better and I also wish it was less tense. I still and will always keep going to therapy. I know I will never marry him and we been together 8 years. I guess I will be a fiance for a long long time. I like the companionship and I just don't have the energy to date again. I think the reason I stay has to do with 100% me. I am too easy going and easy to forgive and I am a yes woman. I am now getting more confidence in myself to set stronger boundaries and not take crap from anyone. I am u comfortable doing that but I need to or I will always remain the "rug" in relationships (family, friends, fiance) I am constantly a work in progress and I write daily affirmations to boost confidence and practice self-love by reading, foot baths, a new lipstick or journal, etc.

I was cheated on. This guy treated me like a queen and I didn't suspect anything. After 8 months together he cheated on me that lasted over a year until I found out. I felt worthless and felt I wasn't good enough. I'll never be the same. Maybe your heart heals but not your mind.