Dealing with a Toxic Friend

I’m really sorry that happened to you. I definitely know a similar feeling. I’m sorry they let you down again. I know that hurts. I’ve definitely been told several times that I’m “too much”, whether it be too passionate, too “clingy”, too loud—neurotypical people (or sometimes even other neurodivergent people with internalized ableism) love to tell us to “chill out”, “be quiet”, and “just be normal”. You should never have to make yourself smaller for someone else. You deserve to take up space. True friends should match your energy/support you in your passions.

also if your “too much” to this person who can’t be honest - maybe your honesty of who you are - being a strong person - just is too much for them to face what issues they have. so i don’t see it something so personal , maybe strong people make them face things they aren’t ready for

hell yeah. im on the spectrum myself w adhd and ocd. i see you have autism tagged so that information will be apart of my response as all. being told im too much fucking sucks bc i’m really just being myself. try your best to not take it personal (if you are) as most people have the opinions they have of others - bc of what they’re “used to” sewing and dealing with - via society social standards. and as autistic people we are out of that regular “used to” in many ways on the spectrum. it’ll be alright and i hope this info helps bring clarity and/or validation of some kind :) i want blunt strong and intense people in my circle and so you would seem to be a good friend to me :)