Sparkie

166d

AITA? Relationship Question

Currently having to quarantine through Monday for an appointment I have on Tuesday... My inner thoughts are taking over throughout the day and it's been a little difficult.
I told my partner that I wanted to have the weekend with them because we haven't spent a weekend together in a while, it's always been with friends. And I told him that I'm gonna be lonely this weekend and it would be nice to spend time with him.
He said that he agreed with the fact that we have been hanging out with friends and that we haven't spent time one on one in a while, but that he still wanted to spend time with his friends this weekend. He said that it's ridiculous and that I'm trying to control when he hangs out with his friends. (He had spent last night hanging out with his friends at the river and the bar, I joined at the bar after work.)
Next weekend we both work and will be in passing (while also working all week) and the following weekend after that he's going out Friday-Monday on a weekend guys trip.
After he gets off work today he's gonna be going out with his friends and more than likely spending the night out and through tomorrow, while I stay here unable to go out because of my appt.
Tomorrow I have an infusion I have to give myself, and he knows I like him there for support with that.
AITA? I really don't know, I didn't think that it was a lot to ask for one on one time together. I keep reeling on this fight we had.

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • El_Enchanted

    166d

    I don’t really think so. Requesting a portion of your partner’s time is totally okay. It’s not like you’re monopolizing him.

  • nikileanne

    166d

    Yeah, sounds like his friends are his priority right now... Maybe try saying hey want to watch a movie just together, then later hang out with friends.... See what he says, then if not, play it off cool, like okay no problem, "say, I'll call a friend over, while you go with your friends then, he may just get jealous

    • rainbowofanxiety

      163d

      Do nor bring jealousy into a relationship, it destroys it.

  • nikileanne

    166d

    He may just say' woah ' she's understanding maybe I should go hang with her idk.... Worth a try though never know unless....

  • plant

    166d

    You're not controlling his time by asking him to spend some time one-on-one, especially if you typically spend time with friends. He should want to spend time with you.

  • Sparkie

    166d

    Everything is a fight. I feel like my feelings don't matter because every time I bring up how I feel about something it's twisted back onto me. In this scenario I'm controlling him and he can't do what he wants with his free time. He started raising his voice at me and cussing saying that I shouldn't have continued the conversation (after not responding to me and giving me the silent treatment) and when I said I didn't like the way he was treating me he said that it was my fault for the way he responded by asking him to please answer me and not be silent. I'm contemplating talking to his mom about his behavior with me but idk...

    • CinderLorel

      163d

      Gaslighting. Him turning it and saying it was ur fault for how he responded is ✨GasLighting✨ If you think speaking with his mother will help do it. You’ve been together for a while and I believe it’s worth trying to fix but someone people can be unbelievable. I hope things get better for you dear and my messages are always open 💕

    • Starlightie

      163d

      How long has this been going on?

  • nikileanne

    166d

    Sorry girl! How long have you two been together total

    • Sparkie

      163d

      we have been together for 8 years, almost 9

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