ellinoris

180d

um kinda hurt that my mothwr truly assumes the worst of me. she just picked me up from work and I mentioned that I made 9 dollars in tips! I was really excited since in housekeeping tips are far and few between. a couple minutes later she asked me "do you, ya know tell the house keepers that you take from the rooms?" at that point I pratocly saw red I was already not feeling well then to assume um some sort of tip stealer? that I'm such a douch that I take money from my peers? I blew up a little saying how disrespected u felt (with out raising my voice) and she made it seem like I'm the bad person for having my feelings hurt. she does this all the time always assuming I do awful shit like steal from friends or the store when I come home with something new or whatever. she is one of my biggest triggers for my anger/anxiety. how many other people think I'm that shitty?

Acute Anxiety

Irritability and Anger

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • Miyuki

    180d

    It’s not your fault. After all that you should be angry because it’s completely uncalled for

    • ellinoris

      180d

      thank you for understanding, sometimes my anger feels so unjustified but like I have good morals and she makes me question that every day

  • kaykaybear

    180d

    Well I'm proud of you! Yay! You got 9 dollars! Lol I'd be excited too. I know it's hard because I deal with an angry dad who's always on me about something so small. BUT recently I've been trying to not get so angry (easier said than done) at his remarks because it saves my mental health. Instead of screaming back or raising my voice I simply respond back with a question which confuses them and makes them wish they said nothing at all😭 some people don't grasp the concept of " if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all" words do hurt, especially the ones of those we care about and maybe want praise from. I'm sure it would have felt nice for her to say she was proud of and happy for you :) it's not your fault, when we deal with it on a daily basis we become fed up. We just want respect. <3

    • ellinoris

      180d

      thank you, I so appreciate everything you said. I needed to hear that today <3

  • Blinky

    180d

    This is something my mom does that I hate. Overload me with a bunch of baseless, hurtful assumptions and then always, ALWAYS act like the victim when I get upset. Saying stuff like "I don't understand how everything is an attack to you" is a really weird way to pronounce "I refuse to see things from your point of view and I don't intend to change". It's one of the reasons I have anxiety, because having someone who's supposed to be a role model constantly trying to burn into you that your thoughts and feelings are wrong, it's very hurtful and it does do some very serious long term damage. And if that wasn't bad enough, my mom is a therapist. So she knows what she's doing. :(

    • ellinoris

      180d

      life is so difficult, and for what? I'm trying so hard to prioritize my own opinions on myself, I'm sorry your mother, especially since she's a therapist l, treats you the same way my mother treats me. One day we will be out of their house and living our best lives, at least I hope so <3

    • Catlady121427

      180d

      I know to well about this feeling bcuz my mother has a masters degree in psychology & one won't admit her own emotional problems & two she is always telling me what I should be doing

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