Feeling Alone After Breakup

@Cherrykilljoy So framing the world in a way that groups of people don’t have room for you is your first obstacle. Changing your perspective can be helpful. What would it be like if you had the perspective “I’m pretty cool and people enjoy my company!” ? As for the shyness part exposure is a huge part of the remedy. Dealing with depression is a huge roadblock to being social. When I am depressed there is no chance for me being social. Though being social can help the depression but not always. Exercise, nutrition, yin and yang yoga, meditation these are tools that can be used to increase your mood. When I focused on getting all the right nutrients my mood immediately improved. I recommend the book “this is your brain on food” the more you expose yourself to other people you like then the more comfortable and less shy you will become. I have been comfortable and confident then went through a phase of being awkward and shy then back to comfortable and confident. It has to do with the people I am around and the belief of if I truly belong there. You have to believe you belong. It’s not easy but once you get the hang of it nothing can stop you. Keep in mind people most of the time just assume you belong there. They don’t know who you’re friends with or not. As long as you have common interests then you should be a perfect fit. It only takes one conversation to make a friend and the more people talk to you about themselves the more they will like you. That’s the easy way.