Coming Out as Non-Binary/Genderfluid to My Family

I had the same fears coming out as trans. I’d previously come out as nonbinary when my stepdad actually asked me if I was, but I’d always acted very girly, so I was worried they wouldn’t accept me as a boy. When I told them I wanted to go by a different name, it did start an argument, but I explained why even though I like my old name I didn’t want to be called it, and he apologized the next day. Over the next couple months he used my preferred name more and more and now it’s finally second nature. I had the same issue with pronouns, but I eventually stood up for myself and told him not to use she/her anymore, and though it started an even bigger fight than the name and took longer to resolve, he is now trying his best to use the right pronouns for me. It’s a scary thing to do but if you’re really wanting them to know, I think it will ultimately improve your situation in the long run. It may be difficult at first, but they’ll never understand you if you don’t tell them and give them the chance to. Also, not sure if this is the case for you, but the way I act relies a lot on how other people see me, so it was very difficult to show my family my true self before telling them. I felt like because I hadn’t acted like myself before, they wouldn’t believe it was the real me, so I had to make myself tell them who I was first. Which gave me motivation to prove to them that really is who I am. Ultimately you know what’s best for you, but I hope this helps :)