See Alike in...

Alike App

Browser

moonchild98

699d

hello, I am a ambulatory wheelchair user and have been needing my to use a wheelchair more often these days and I feel like people especially since I'm young (24) always look at me weird. Do other people notice or feel this too?

Top reply
    • ninners

      690d

      I’m 22 and use a wheelchair on bad days. I definitely feel self conscious and judged when I use it. It sounds kinda weird, but something that helps me is remembering that a lot of people are very ignorant and uneducated when it comes to illnesses, especially invisible illnesses. And reminding myself that I don’t need to justify any aid or accommodation to anyone. I know what I’m dealing with and no one else’s opinion matters. Sending love and support 🤍

    • ninners

      690d

      I’m 22 and use a wheelchair on bad days. I definitely feel self conscious and judged when I use it. It sounds kinda weird, but something that helps me is remembering that a lot of people are very ignorant and uneducated when it comes to illnesses, especially invisible illnesses. And reminding myself that I don’t need to justify any aid or accommodation to anyone. I know what I’m dealing with and no one else’s opinion matters. Sending love and support 🤍

    • RoseJay

      695d

      I know how you feel people look at me weird when I use my wheelchair which it more now cause my balance is really bad

    • Lew_Bear

      695d

      Yep.. I just try to remind myself that I don’t owe anyone an explanation, and that my wheelchair/walker make it possible for me to leave the house for more than an hour at a time. My quality of life is more than worth it

    • ChronicChillness

      697d

      I also am an ambulatory wheelchair user. I also suffer from some common health issues, I still get anxiety when going out in public. I still get embarrassed and I'm 4 1/2 years older than you,

    • JosephOpalLover

      698d

      Good way to think of it if you're can't help you then what the hell do you care about other people I started using a cane around age 15 and 25 right now and going on 26 very soon have a paralyzed tip so I really do need the cane and for my experience using it there's a lot of aholes out there that tend to think I'm just using this for show or something I got myself a nice colorful cane because I needed one and I didn't want to to have that stainless steel standard so I get a few more stairs but I actually get a lot of confidence on it from a lot of people that are very nice to me about my situation

    • JosephOpalLover

      698d

      It's funny I've been using a cane for between 10 and 11 years and I completely understand where you're coming from it's not really the most flattering thing in the world to need a thing like a cane or a wheelchair to get around but sometimes it can be useful some people are pretty nice about it some people can be complete self-absorbed and not aware of their surroundings but don't feel bad about it at all me you and screw anybody else that doesn't like that they're not you and they don't know the situation so don't let other people's looks or glares get you down ever

    • Quincy

      699d

      To preface, I use a wheelchair, walker, cane, and braces and I'm 17. Able-bodied people tend to get squeamish when they don't have a perfect vision of what a disabled person looks like. When a young person is in a wheelchair they tend to become either confused or scared, and want to downplay the issue or try to rationalize it in a way they understand. They don't always understand that disabilities affect young people, and so they become confused and try to make sense of it, which is why they give odd looks. People constantly come up to me and bombard me with uncomfortable questions or comments, and try to make sense of it because we are somewhat of a spectacle in their eyes and they don't understand basic respect. For the most part, these people are going to continue because of ignorance, and I'm not trying to generalize abled people but most of them do this. Just do what helps you and meet your own needs because people will judge no matter what.

    • That_Witch

      699d

      I'm not a wheelchair user however I am a cane user who is 15 (although I look younger) and I definitely notice the stares or people looking at me weird. This REALLY bothered me in the beginning and still goes sometimes but using it more and more has gotten me more comfortable with it. It really kicks up my anxiety too so I do breathing exercises and repeat affirmations. Just thing like "My cane helps me so it doesn't matter what other people think", "I deserve to outside with everyone else", etc etc. The looks honestly just annoy me now. I don't mind little kids looking, I usually just give them a little wave and smile but the adults are what get me. Like, you made it all the way to your adult life and never learned staring is rude? And you thought that what? I wouldn't notice? I'm disabled not stupid 😂😂. In all seriousness at the end of the day it helps you life a better life, so it doesn't matter matter what anyone else thinks <3

      • Blinky

        698d

        @That_Witch ughhh this is my big fear for when I start using a cane. jeezus

      • moonchild98

        699d

        @That_Witch thank you for this! The kids are always so sweet, it's always the older/middle-aged people. Like sorry I wanna live life too.

    • paigeboleman

      699d

      i definitely get this whenever i use any type of mobility aid. or when I used disabled parking and don’t have an aid. i’ll try to ignore it, or be super open about what I’m going through. I know other people like to make jokes about it

☝ This content is generated by our users and it is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult with your physician before making any medical decision

Thank you! Your submission has been received!
Oops! Something went wrong while submitting the form.

Want to chat or share? Download the Alike app now and get complete access to Alike.health's unique features.

Find people who are
experiencing a similar
medical reality

100% Free
100%
Free

Download Alike for the full experience

JOIN

View All

Bupropion

night sweats

paranoid

Valium

sertraline

palpitations

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Depression

palpitations

Depression

Valium

Bupropion