Struggling with Self-Harm and Family Issues

this cycle is terrible, i’m so sorry. honestly i’d say the first step is really aligning with your true self and true values or morals if you are able to at all, and understanding that this isn’t something that you want or that is good for you while also understanding that this is such a hard issue and you deserve compassion for it. if you can work on trying to really catch the urges and separate yourself from them, you can always try to do something different like draw aggressively or go on a run or something. the only way out is if you feel the pain thoroughly, unfortunately, but it will always pass, even without the SH. i SHed a lot for the past 4 years, even some in my childhood. ive been clean for almost 10 months now and i never thought i’d get there because i understand how trapping it can feel. just know that you are capable of overcoming it

I found that using a rubber band to snap against the area I would SH in just feeling that would help without actually hurting me in a dangerous way. The one I tried latest was using a guitar pick and drawing on my thighs with it. It actually helped a lot. And eventually I transitioned to not doing that at all I really only do those things a few times a year now thankfully but it’s definitely a transition period.

i am so sorry. i’m 18 and i’ve sh since i was like 16 i think? i was almost a year clean and then my life went crazy and i’ve been trying to get clean again for like six months. anyway. honestly i wish i had something to say to help. but i don’t so i just wanted to let you know you’re not alone