Struggling with Polyamory: Feeling Inadequate and Low

I absolutely feel this. What I’ve found is helpful in my relationship is being open with my partner about how I feel. I reassure them that they haven’t done anything to cause me to feel the way I do, and it’s just a result of my mental illnesses, and I ask them to give me reassurance that they are happy to be with me. This can be really hard to do, because our culture is sort of based around self-sufficiency, especially when it comes to our own emotions. However, people are not wired to be 100% emotionally self-sufficient, and it’s okay to say “I’m having a difficult time, and I feel like I’m not good enough for you. Can you reassure me that you’re happy to be with me?”