Struggling with Neopronouns

I always felt that way about binary trans men who used she/her because of my own dysphoria but I realized that they just have different experiences than I do and that its up to them to decide what is okay for them. I used it/its as a coping mechanism for a long time before I realized I was trans, I actually stumbled into it because my friends wanted to reclaim it for ourselves and each other against a mutual bully who had been calling us all by it/its for the entire school year. The second it was consentual and friendly i realized it felt way better than the she/her pronouns I thought i would be stuck with forever. It doesn't feel like you're dehumanizing me when I've asked you to call me that it feels like you're respecting me. I still even get some gender euphoria from it like I did as a kid, and I'm a binary man who generally uses he/him I can't imagine what that's like for a person with gender dysphoria over everything but it/it's pronouns. Maybe it'll help to think about it from a different perspective.

So people who use it/its pronouns often feel so good. Sometimes they don't really feel like people, and saying it/its is really validating to the feeling of not quite being human. It doesn't mean they aren't a sentient being worthy of love and care. For some it also is like the way you would affectionately talk about a tree, a landscape. I jokingly and affectionately call my dogs it/its sometimes as in "its so cute, what is it doing" when referring to the dog. The main thing is how it makes the individual who has those pronouns feel. It makes them feel seen.

Same, I don't know what to do when people go by those pronouns, especially this one person on Tiktok who went by the pronoun b*tch, (yeah I'm not kidding). I know a friend irl that goes by he/it and the "it" pronoun confuses the hell outta me.

It/it's for pronouns is a generational thing, I believe. Cuz being called 'it' was an insult when I was growing up as well. Now an identity term is available and pronouns are available because we are more accepting. I know people in the community who use the term f* g which I don't like. Because I remember that being a bad slur but the term queer is what I use the most often! For being inclusive of anyone that goes against CIS normative/heteronormative. But older generations where abused by the term queer! so I try to use that as well as knowing my identity is valid and so is It's.

As someone who used to get bullied by being called an "it", I'm uncomfortable calling anyone else "it". I understand where your coming from. It feels dehumanizing. I'd recommend talking to that person about it

The best way is to see how happy it gets when you do refer to it using its pronouns. Remember what it feels like when someone uses your correct pronouns vs when they call u by the wrong ones. At the end of the day it’s okay to be awkward especially at first, but if you have people that use neopronouns in your life you’re going to want to practice so that you can respect them.