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ProjectSys

592d

Is it okay to ask, "Is there something I can do for our relationship?" to your s/o? I want to get the wording right. Including discussion of polyamory and affection giving, as I feel that I can be love-bomby and clingingly distant. I want to be what's best for Em* and Myself, to bring better balance where it's needed and communicate it to Em and get a genuine response from Eir heart full of feelings. We both tend to struggle with voicing Our exact feelings, so I need some advice on how to talk about a deep topic like this and not overwhelm either of Us. 💜 *S/O's Pronouns: E/Em/Eir

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    • Loocifer

      582d

      @brendaboppers I’m so glad it resonated with you! 🤗

    • Starlightie

      588d

      I also use Ey/Em/Eir pronouns 💕

    • amandasnyder588

      590d

      Also ask what you do better. Just listen.

      • ProjectSys

        590d

        @amandasnyder588 can you clarify what the first part means?

    • plant

      591d

      It is always okay to ask what you can do for your relationship. It is expressly creating space for your partner and yourself to talk about things that you may need that can only be fulfilled by each other. I've seen some amazing advice about writing down what you want to say, but also, there's such a big push on conversations only happening outloud, but please know that you can absolutely have these conversations over text, if that's better for you both. Not only does it give you the chance to look at how you're wording stuff and make sure you're saying exactly what you want to say, but also ensures you can go back and re-read it and refresh on things that you guys have talked about

      • ProjectSys

        590d

        @plant that's perfect! i plan on doing this over text, having that written down in a safe spot will help us keep those feelings alive 💜💜

    • valossadei

      592d

      can I ask what E/Em/Eir is? not trying to being rude just want to educate myself ❤

      • ProjectSys

        591d

        @valossadei E/Em/Eir is nonbinary! that's Eir pronouns, similar to They/Them/Their

        • valossadei

          588d

          @ProjectSys oh okay, thank you!

    • brendaboppers

      592d

      Married and poly here... feel free to DM me if you want to chat

    • Minimint

      592d

      I could help by finding out more information about you and E on a personal level. I struggled with this a lot especially through high school and still sometimes struggle but I tend to be good at accessing other situations. Mind if I DM you?

      • ProjectSys

        590d

        @Minimint yes go ahead!

    • Elektra

      592d

      I totally get trying to balance things out. My two s/O's and I are grieving. We lost my husband July 29th and since then, they've been worried about me more. I feel bad because I know their hurting too.

    • Loocifer

      592d

      It is absolutely okay to ask that with your significant other! I have a tendency to write out big things emotional things that have more than one line of thought to them! It helps me organize my thoughts and make sure I’m saying everything I want to say. Maybe say* something along the lines of “I want to make sure our lines of communication are opening, is there anything you feel I could be doing differently? *it doesn’t necessarily have to be talking, it could be writing or typing or something else! sometimes the pressure to talk (especially about big feelings) makes it hard to even get to the thing you want to discuss

      • brendaboppers

        592d

        @Loocifer this is perfect!

        • Loocifer

          582d

          @brendaboppers I’m so glad it resonated with you! 🤗

      • ProjectSys

        592d

        @Loocifer Writing it out is a great idea! Having something to follow to keep My thoughts arranged will help out a lot. I plan on typing it out so E will be able to take Eir time with writing Eir thoughts too! I like that wording you chose, I'll keep it in mind.

    • Crescent_Moon

      592d

      I'd love to give some advice. Is it okay if I dm you and we talk about it there?

      • ProjectSys

        592d

        @Crescent_Moon yes you may!

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