Rebuilding friendships after trauma

Omg thank you for everyone who commented. Brought me to damn tears. It makes me feel a lot more open to trying those type of relationships again. Weve got a lot of work to do for ourselves but clearly its worth all the painful uncertainty and anxiety. I just need to find the right people. ❤️ Thank you for giving me some hope to cling to.

I kinda hate that I'm not alone. Other people shouldn't have to suffer like this. It makes me sad.

Were the same our biggest issue is its always been people we trusted whove broke our trust thank goodness were not alone in this

Currently in the same boat myself with my husband. I had so much anxiety that he would turn on me so to speak while we were dating but it never happened. It takes time for sure but his consistency helped loads for me. It got kind of ugly and erratic for me a few times but he stayed patient with me. Ultimately I would it was worth it. Didn't feel great during the process but it was a necessary thing that had to happen for my traumatized brain to understand that we didn't have to mask or do anything like that for everyone anymore. That we were and adult that could make our own decisions and that includes whether we cared if people didn't like us or not. It was very releasing for us and we hope the same for you some day. Just stick with it. It does get better. Practice and consistency.

I'm in a similar boat myself. I haven't had a healthy relationship in 10 years now and quite frankly don't know how to make healthy relationship choices now. but I'm trying and so are you, that's all we can do till we figure our shit out. it's gonna get better, it'll take sometime and work but you're already on the path of change by reaching out like this. you got this <3

I'm glad I'm not alone