You can still keep them close ... at a distance. Phone calls and visits go a long way. It's OK to keep family at a healthy distance.

Let me tell you from experience.. blood doesn’t always equal family. I am closer to my moms adopted parents than my biological grandparents. My adopted grandparents always treated me as their own and taught me about Christ, love and respect. My dads parents only liked to use the grandkids to brag, post pictures and not make any effort to get to know my siblings and I until we were older. My dad was determined to break that generational cycle and so can you! Family can be people at church, a support group, friendships, close colleagues, etc. You have the knowledge that your family is severally lacking! You need to set clear boundaries, counseling for you or family counseling. If they aren’t willing to do that or receive help, I would not live with them. It will not get any better. I would suggest another relative, roommate, government assistance programs, etc. You’re hurting yourself by staying in a toxic environment. You need to take care of yourself and find others that support you. Church is a great way to get plugged in if you are into faith, God has provided me with great peace and comfort. If not, support groups, these types of platforms and friendships will be vital for you. Stay strong!