Do you take meds? Some medications have a side effect of a low sex drive. It could also be hormones. Idk I am definitely not a professional!

Heya! First of all, awesome of you to be open about this problem. It can be really hard for female identifying individuals to achieve orgasm, I know for trans feminine people it can get harder once they start estrogen. That said, there are also conditions and medications that can make it hard as well. You could even have hangups that get in the way, or even just issues with concentrating. I recommend talking to a professional, either a doctor or a therapist. It must be super frustrating being in your shoes and I'm sorry. Also to be honest, using a toy (for me, a vibe) helps me reach orgasm much more quickly than using my hands.

My meds have totally shot anything that was left of an already abysmal libido for me 😂 I don’t really have any tips, but I can totally relate. Just know you aren’t the only one!