Struggling with Loneliness and Dating Apps

I don’t really have any friends, there’s even less I consistently talk to/see. I have 2 friends from college but I graduated and they both live over 4 hours away from me and work odd hours. I have 3 “home” friends but they all live at least an hour from me and work full time. 90% of the time that I text ANY of them (i don’t do group chats) I dont hear from them and if I try calling/facetiming, no answer and maybe i’ll get a “sorry I was busy…” text a day or two later but that’s it. with all of this in mind, i’ve never been in a real relationship (am on dating apps) but will go on a date and hook up once but nothing goes from there. I want a relationship but don’t want to force one or scare guys on apps and don’t know how to not be clingy. I dont mean showing up to their houses in the middle of the night or calling 30 times, I will often have never met these guys and we only snapchat/text but I can’t not reply. I struggle to not quadruple text sometimes. I really don’t have a person I can really talk to about this. I have family that love me but I lie and tell them i’m with a friend or another some evenings but actually sit in my car alone or drive around. truly talking to my family would show my lies.