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KREEkree

820d

Last night, my best friend tried calling me over and over, trying to make contact with me. She was having a full blown meltdown. But what did I do? I turned my volume off and do not disturb on. I feel like the worst human being on the face of this earth. She's been there for me, day and night, no matter the hour, but the ONE time she needs me, I don't respond. It's because I've spent the past few days breaking inside, shutting down, constantly battling my emotions and my urges. I knew if I answered, I'd take on her emotions and problems, and I'd most likely relapse. I know that it was the healthiest thing for me to do for myself, nor taking on her emotions, but I still feel like the shittiest person ever. I don't even believe that what I did was right, and that I shouldn't have been so selfish. How do I cope with this guilt?? It's eating me alive.

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    • UnluckyUnicorn

      820d

      Reverse the situation. If you had a problem but your friend didn’t respond and later told you that they felt like they were breaking down and knew it would cause them to further spiral down, would you have grace for them? Would you understand and be sympathetic? Would you be proud of them for doing what they needed to get out of a dark place? If so, talk to yourself that way. You did what you needed for your mental health. Both of you breaking and you relapsing isn’t good for anyone. You can’t help anyone if you have nothing left to give. Once you’re ready, explain that to your friend. If she’s been there for you before she’s going to understand it this time as well. You can’t save a drowning person if you’re drowning too. Be gentle with yourself

    • midnightdrives

      819d

      you did the right thing. i promise.

    • Flaymes

      820d

      Absolutely put yourself first in this scenario. It’s wonderful when we’re able to help others with their troubles, but your mental health absolutely comes first

    • UnluckyUnicorn

      820d

      Reverse the situation. If you had a problem but your friend didn’t respond and later told you that they felt like they were breaking down and knew it would cause them to further spiral down, would you have grace for them? Would you understand and be sympathetic? Would you be proud of them for doing what they needed to get out of a dark place? If so, talk to yourself that way. You did what you needed for your mental health. Both of you breaking and you relapsing isn’t good for anyone. You can’t help anyone if you have nothing left to give. Once you’re ready, explain that to your friend. If she’s been there for you before she’s going to understand it this time as well. You can’t save a drowning person if you’re drowning too. Be gentle with yourself

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