I think that just as you were in a deep spot and needed the support of your partner, maybe now he or she is in the same spot and needs your support. I don't think there's any point in feeling like you're doing all the work in the relationship, because between partners who love each other there's no need to keep track of who does what and when. If you still feel that it is difficult for you, the best thing is to have a conversation between the two of you in which you say how you feel and listen to the other side as well. Communication is the key to a good relationship

thats heavy, i feel like im in the same spot as you