Feeling Left Behind: Coping with Comparing Yourself to Others

absolutely. i feel like my pain has limited my life in so many ways. i feel like i never got a chance to be a child or a teenager in a way. i couldn’t do sleepovers or birthday parties as a kid. i couldn’t do sports or actual parties as a teen. i try my best to do what i can to maintain what i feel like is a “normal” life so getting a full time job has helped me but it was and continues to be hard. after work i don’t have much energy at all so i spend most of my time at work or at home but i’m trying harder to make new friends and go out more and such.

I think all that matters is if you do things that make you happy. What other people do-- it might not be for you. Being impressive isn't as valuable long term as just being happy

Absolutely! I have to remind myself that it’s ok that I have fewer “spoons” than they do or that I spend my spoons differently. (If you don’t know the spoon theory, look it up, I love the visual it provides) I try to make sure my work is fulfilling and that my spaces are happy so even if I don’t get out a lot bc health, finances, energy, etc get in the way, I can find joy or at least contentment most of the time with where I am.

100% it makes me feel like I don't have my life together.