Struggling with Emotional Control - Seeking Advice

@welpe DBT is especially useful when dealing with the intense emotional reactions associated with BPD. People often have intense emotional because their brain is used to identifying danger (to keep you safe and alive). When someone is in a dangerous environment/situation for so long, their brain will give them a negative thought and they will automatically accept that thought as the truth. However, there are so many other perspectives to have. So, when you can recognize when your scared brain is talking, you can change your perspective and offer your brain a more positive or realistic thought. This will help train your brain to not assume the worst. In terms of DBT, I would start with trying to recognize what your triggers are. Then, whenever you feel triggered, pause and ask yourself “what emotion am I feeling?”, “what thought process has led to this feeling?”, “why am I having this kind of perspective?” (Past trauma/situations, maladaptive thought processes), and “what do I need in order to not feel this way?”. Is it that you feel attacked? Is it self-esteem/insecurity? This should lead to some self-discovery and help you change your thoughts and reactions. Some tips and tricks that help me when I’m feeling an emotion intensely in reaction to someone: -stop and think before you react -ask for clarification before assuming the worst -explain your thought processes to them so that they can help you change your perspective