Hey, it sounds to me that you’re really missing the idea of him, but not your ex himself. Sometimes when I find myself dwelling on exes or people that haven’t been kind to me I think it’s because I’m feeling lonely/isolated and I miss that connection we used to have. Have you been spending time with your friends or family lately? It might be good for you to do something fun with people that support you to get your mind off your ex.

I think Katy perry once said “it’s never really over, is it?” And I always really liked that quote, because in a big way it’s very true. It’s just that I think of my exes less and less often over the months and years, but sometimes those thoughts come back and it feels like I’m just getting over them again. Idk how much this can help, but just know I think it’s totally normal. I mean, once upon a time you might’ve really relied on him, and there might’ve been a reason that you’re missing on right now. It takes the brain a while to kick a habit :) <3

I understand that feeling completely. I just got out of a relationship that was no good to me but I keep getting the urge to talk to him again and again. I actually started talking to old friends of mine and spending more time with my family. When I do that he is off my mind almost completely.

Hey I feel you! I was in relationship for 5 years and we are broken up for two years now and it’s been really tough! But lately I’ve been having more distractions for example working somewhere I like, those distractions help me meet new people and experience new relationships. Making new good memories is really important! It takes time just know that you will eventually stop thinking about him as much. This is something I’ve struggled with even in short term relationships.

The Devil doesn't bargain, he'll only break your heart again it isn't worth it darling, nothings gonna change. They will groom you into thinking they have changed, and then the abuse will be way worse than it was last time. Going back until you hate them isn't a good or safe option. And until you have sat down and gotten to know yourself, found self respect and love; you will be emotional depending on people, And toxic people will choose you since your so emotionally vulnerable. Toxic people choose there victims. It's painful, being with yourself. But it's a necessary healing journey and process in order to be ok.