Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One

Honey are you doing OK? I know it can kinda suck to have so many people try to cheer you up right now.. like it's that easy, right? No one truly knows how you're feeling. This is your journey alone, and grief is a very very deeply personal experience. I wish there was something we could do for you, but they're was nothing anyone could do for me when my dad was dying. He was the only one who made me feel sane in this crazy world. We're both very neuro-divergent and (I hope this doesn't sound braggy but seeing myself through my dad made me truly appreciate our brains) brilliant in a very bizarre way (though very very inept in others!) As long as he was in the world, there was someone else exactly like me, and it was the only thing that made me feel not alone and not like giving up.

I hope you don't mind, I'm praying for you and your family.

Do you have some people you can think of that you look up to maybe someone a little older like an older sibling, aunt, or mentor role?

💔😟😞 I'm sorry precious one. That is terrible. Draw close to a couple really close friends, family members, or mentors to come alongside of you to journey with you through this time, lean on them, you will make it.

That sucks and it’s not okay and I’m really sorry you have to go through this ever. I wish I could give you a hug right now. Death is what makes life so meaningful though. It’s special and amazing and wonderful because it’s not permanent. Make as many happy memories together as you can and keep those going for her. It’s not easy and it hurts a lot so cry about it and scream about it but don’t let it corrupt all of your amazing memories together and all the things you love about her. Keep those and she will continue to bring you smiles and warmth and comfort your whole life. Everyone who comments on this loves you and stopped to let you know that you mean something to them so please don’t forget that.

My mom had kidney failure and did dialysis for several years longer than they told her she would live. 7 years in fact…. She was my world and life without her is hard but I know she would want me to keep living

Honey, I know how much this can hurt. It can feel impossible to get past. I will tell you that it gets better, knowing that this doesn't help you right now. I think it's important for you to talk to your mom about these feelings. Do you have the ability to speak to a therapist?

It is one of the hardest things in life to go through. Don't commit suicide, she would never want that for you. She has dreams and she worked her butt off raising you to be the best person you can be. She raised you to be strong enough to live without her, stay for her if nothing else.