Dealing with Intrusive Thoughts During Sexual Activity

I've never done EMDR, but it stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy. I've only ever heard good things about it. Hopefully you can get more answers here.

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I am still suffering from an entire childhood and early adulthood CSA. ( Ages 5 - 23). What is EMDR? It has been mentioned several times, but I have never heard of it.

I also was a victim of CSA. Once I got my substance use disorder under control I started therapy. The type of therapy I've been doing is called CPT or Cognitive Processing Therapy and it has helped tremendously so far. CPT was created as a treatment focusing on overcoming PTSD. It has aspects of CBT and DBT tailored precisely for PTSD. I highly recommend.

Hi friend! That traumatizing experience sounds extremely life altering; thank you for sharing that with us. I am also a CSA survivor. I’ve done EMDR and DBT and a lot of self work and it’s helped a lot over time. That’s the thing that sucks shit about trauma, right?—we see so little change unless we traumatize ourselves again to heal. I’m proud to hear you’re doing some EMDR! It definitely helps. Keeping an honest and open line of communication with partners will be very valuable. I wanted to tell you too that a number of sex therapists out there are both very trans experienced/trans positive and trauma informed, and seeing one of those people specifically may help. There was a time where I didn’t want to have sex ever, EVER again but with time and resiliency (sucks that we have to have these) I am now getting married (?!?!) and feeling a lot more comfortable having regular sex. There is hope. I promise. Message me if you’d like.

Be honest with your partner. If they’re willing to listen, maybe that’s a sign that they are not your abuser. Also, it must’ve been difficult for you.