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Dealing with Family Trauma and Abusive Tendencies

marcieee

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!!TW!! mentions of suicide!! brief hospitalizations mention !! okay to preface this i have did so that complicates shit but im going to try to get this out because its been brewing too long. so recently ive been pondering my parents. do they truly not realize how awful their behaviour was? i cant undo the trauma, the pain, hurt, agony, etc i understand that theyre sorry now but that was only after a suicide attempt became known to them, after acs involvement, after so much damage was already done. i think i have some sort of love for them, a little at least. but the others (parts/alters) do and dont and it makes it hard to decide whether or not we want to mend or cut our relationship with them. i wish the past hadnt happend like that, then maybe my family will be okay and what about our little sister? since weve been in and outta hospitals theyve been focusing their abusive tendencies on her, and i dont want her ending up like me shes only just turned 13 i think im scared i dont feel it but my mind is convered in it

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    • AnimalBoy

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      Sometimes parents have selfish reasons, real reasons, or just dont care but if they havent made adequate attempts to mend the relationship then they havent earned forgiveness, especially if you have a reason to suspect that they're doing the same to your sister. You dont have to cut them out entirely if it makes things complicated for your system and if you need some vector of communication with your sister. You however should definitely consider setting boundaries and restrictions on how much you're around them and how much control or say they have over you if possible

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    • AnimalBoy

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      Sometimes parents have selfish reasons, real reasons, or just dont care but if they havent made adequate attempts to mend the relationship then they havent earned forgiveness, especially if you have a reason to suspect that they're doing the same to your sister. You dont have to cut them out entirely if it makes things complicated for your system and if you need some vector of communication with your sister. You however should definitely consider setting boundaries and restrictions on how much you're around them and how much control or say they have over you if possible

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    • MiriamShtetl

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      It's hard to comprehend that your parents really don't care about their behaviours and the effects on children who are highly sensitive. I'm in the same boat, and finally coming to terms with the fact that my parents never really cared at all. And I still can't believe it. And even though they may say sorry, it become evident that it's really just a word that means nothing to them, especially when they continue to act that way. Please find a way to save yourself and your sister. I have a friend to disowned her family for the same reasons, leaving her sisters behind and one unfortunately took her own life last year. So please, no matter how hard it is, it'll be so worth it disconnecting yourself and sis from toxic and destructive 'care'takers. All the best šŸ’š

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      • marcieee

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        @MiriamShtetl thank you<3

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    • shoe

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      Saying sorry will never undo the damage. Now it's time to heal and move on. Yes, they suck but you won't be able to change them. Change yourself and learn how to cope and heal. Try to take your sister out to do stuff. Or even go out on walks if you don't have a car. Being in that house is not healthy for both of you. Wishing the best of luck!

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      • marcieee

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        @shoe thank you!!

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It's understandable that you're feeling conflicted about your relationship with your parents, especially considering the trauma and pain they've caused. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and mental health when making decisions about whether to mend or cut ties with them. As for your little sister, it's natural to be concerned for her well-being as well. If possible, try to offer her support and guidance, and consider seeking professional help if you believe she is in danger.

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