Struggling with Others Not Taking My Autism and ADHD Seriously

Unless a person experienced same condition some don't get it

In a personal situation id advise you to tell them that its not an excuse it's an explanation to why you're confused by something that might be obvious to someone else, and of they argue that further say that if they want to go into a genuine conversation with only bad faith the two of you should talk at a later date. However this can still be taken badly, some people are just rude or struggle with conflict involving people who are different from them, and in a work setting you want to avoid as much conflict as possible, you'll want to also avoid sharing as much personal information as you can to achieve that. So rephrasing it more like "I'm sorry I'm not sure I understand, can you please explain?" And then offering an apology for offending them or an explanation and apologizing for the misunderstanding, followed by thanking them for explaining. I don't personally really think it's the "right" way to interact with someone but it is how most company's HR wants you to interact with your coworkers for the best chance of diverse groups of people working together functionally, including customers and such where they have significantly less control.

Generally at work, be careful not to "overshare". That advise actually comes from HR people.

Im so sorry you are going through. Thats inexsuable. I have ADHD and my grandson and youngest have autism. I would NEVER allow someone talk to them like that!!

People make fun of and don't take things that they don't understand, seriously. Understand that their lack of compassion and their reactions to you say way more about them, than about you. Don't work yourself up and worry about people that are Hell Bent on not accepting you. Their loss. I was married for 10 years to a man who didn't understand me. I turned myself inside out trying to get him to understand and be compassionate. He just wasn't able and I felt small. It's not you. You're not tripping, friend. You're fine.