Yep, I struggle with this every single day. I see a therapist weekly, and he brings it up almost every session. The problem is that I have have no idea how even to change it. I do know that it doesn't have to be huge things like getting a massage or pedicure or taking a nice bath every night, although those things are nice. It can be small things like watching a show you enjoy, or eating that dessert you want, or enjoying a book. Doing little acts of self-care will lead to self-compassion, which will lead to self-love. I still haven't attained that. In fact, I suck at it. I wallow in self-pity most of the time. It's definitely easier said than done. But any baby step you can take in that direction is progress. ❤️