My Best Friend is Avoiding Me: What Can I Do?

It is true. Anyone who I inv in to be my friend or even if it's the very first time I've talked to them, I tend to over-care for them. I still maintain great self-care myself, but not when my anxiety/depression is this high😥 I will try taking the personality test you specified a lil later today, & see if I can get some answers to help myself further, thank you!!

Yeah, from what you are saying, it seems like you care for others a lot and not for yourself. I used to be like that with certain people in my life haha. I think a personality test may help you understand yourself a lot - why you fell what you feel and how you interact with others and what remedies you can take in your situation. I found out that I am an INFJ personality type and this explained so much of my life! Now I accept who I am and try to make changes here and there keeping the INFJ mentality framework awareness in my mind haha.

@windsor thank you! I'll give it some more time & if she doesn't respond by Sunday night, then I'll prolly have to message her as I won't be able to endure this pain any longer. Sorry to hear you dealt with similar friends irl & online😥 We gotta be so careful now in days of who we invite in to be our friends & get close with. Otherwise, we'll end up hurt one day :(

@monstrously Sorry, I put my phone away & forced myself to sleep after my last comment, but thank you again. It's incredibly hard to maintain self-care with this happening, but im trying😥 Hope I get answers from her once she finally messages me. I messaged her other bff saying I think she hates me & idk how to fix it, but she has yet to respond. I have like the most kind hearted soul one could have. I don't understand why others could hate or want to avoid me😭 Maybe my problem is im too nice. I haven't taken a personality test before. Should I? Could that help with anything

I've been here! I have a irl friend of 6 years, a childhood best friend, that just suddenly started ghosting me out of the blue. :( She said I never opened up though, and that she expected me to reciprocate her vulnerability, which is just a no no since you do not force people to open up like that. Anywho, I also have a quite a few online friends and there has been times where I have felt terrible since I myself have been the one to isolate myself from others when I get really caught up in the moment and need to reassess things. Most people do not leave things on loose ends, so don't worry! They should most likely message back, just give yourself some time and a breather and they'll be around! :) 💕

@jorda If you do not mind me asking, have you ever taken the Meyers Briggs Personality Test?

No worries! Having alternative explanations for her behavior or having hope is not bad either, especially in the initial phase. There is indeed a chance that she will interact with you again and things will go back to normal. Having said that, whatever happens, you need to take care of yourself at least most of the time and only emotionally depend on yourself most of the time. It is a work in progress but surely it will happen with time. I hope everything works out well just as you hope!

@Monstrously Thank you! I hope it lessens with time. Letting her go isn't an option, so I'm trying to remain optimistic that it'll all work out soon & we'll be closer than ever again. It's hard not to think about her. I literally have a controller with her name on it 😭 She may have a lot of baggage, but I hope she doesn't leave me in the baggage claim forever. I don't understand why we can't be closer or why I don't matter at all to her. She'll say I do matter & she cares still, yet she'll let days go by without hitting me up. And that's when we were on really good terms with each other. I'm just waiting on a text that'll prolly never come😥 Thx again. It's nice to see others who can relate to having silly friends as I do.

This is such a tough situation to come to terms with. I’m really sorry to hear that. For me, it helps when I interact with other people. Also, deleting or getting rid of anything that reminds me of the person helps as well. As for the rest, time lessens the pain as days go by. Someone I thought I was really close to did that with me. It was very difficult at first but with time it got better, though it does comes back to haunt me once in a while with a few days in the blues every few months. But it is totally manageable now. Also, please love yourself. Your friend has a lot of baggage and simply you are not control of that. You did everything you could. Be kind to yourself. If possible, take a bird’s eye view of the situation and empathize with yourself. It will lessen with time I promise.