Roommates' Jokes About Queer Identity

That is horrible of them hun I'm so sorry that they do that to you! It's not right nor fair of them to laugh at you for that! Your life and choices arent theirs to judge, make fun of or be disrespectful about! If you need to chat, vent or just be distracted from them and their disgusting attitudes please know my inbox is open I will not judge or make fun of you. Even of I can help you a little I will ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

Hi Lizzette, you could move out and find a queer apartment to live in. Your roommates are not good people, your home should be your sanctuary from the world, go find one that is. I speak as a queer man.

You’re not in the wrong. If your heart says your hurt, your heart says your hurt! I mean, they can always backtrack on their words, you know, and go right back into the safety of a heteronormative relationship. You’re actually queer, and you live the reality of it! Ofc that would bother you.

You just need to communicate with them better and tell them why you feel uncomfortable. Hinting isn't usually enough

I can see are how that is frustrating. No tdefending them, but from my personal experience, (some) ppl try to show their support by making comments like those or talking about queer issues or just talking too much about how they accept queer folx. Not realizing that they don't have to say those things for us to know that they accept us. I mean this is not in all cases of course. But a have some gen x friends (55 & 57) (I'm 30) and one almost always announces that she used to not accept gay ppl but she evolved and believes we should have rights. The other one talks about a gay guy she knows. Which I know him too and they're really not that close at all. But I know they do these things to remind me that they support me. What they do is they ask me about my love life or ex-wife or something relating to queer anything I say like news or whatnot. And it was so frustrating, really it can still be frustrating and annoying and embarrassing especially when you're in a restaurant and they announce very loudly how they used to disagree with gay marriage but they support it now “bc I realized gay ppl are ppl too.” I also had friends his HS that used to talk about getting drunk and making out w a chick if they could. And making sure to talk about how much they love “the gays” it is kind of a way to connect, in my experience. At least with these ppl I have come to know that. Some ppl (especially older) just don't know how to be open about being accepting without constantly talking about queer stuff. As like a reminder of hey, I support you and you can talk to me about queer things. I won't know your roommates so idk if that is your situation. But that has been my experience. I didn't grow up around a lot of queer ppl. In HS I was the only out lesbian, some were bicurious. Much later the rainbow ppl started coming out in college or after college. But way back then, it was just me! Then I went to college and met my later wife who I was with for 8 years. We divorced but still. And my gen x friends did the same thing (being loud) to be open about being queer-friendly so I could talk about my divorce openly. But my point is, it could be them trying to show support. But also it very well could not be that. I really don't know. But having a convo with your roommates about the language they use is very helpful. And you can clear the air so that you're both comfy.

That sounds really frustrating. I think you need to be straight up as hard as that is, it's really rude to say that kind of stuff infornt of your face like its all a joke for us