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uglyweeds

629d

Today I woke up and started sobbing immediately. Which sucks but I think I would be able to more effectively deal with my emotions if I were able to process them, but I also woke up to a text asking me to pick up my little brother. (For context, my mom just left state to visit her sister who is going through treatment for cancer, and her mom who has Alzheimer’s.) I responded that I woke up crying and could barely even get myself out of bed and I was met with anger from my dad. A sarcastic “you Poor thing,” and then when I said there was no need to make fun of me, I woke up crying, and really didn’t need any more criticism. My dad texted me back that he was pissed because my mom is gone and he would have to be late for work. I’ve been progressively feeling better as the day goes on but I can’t shake being bothered by getting criticized further after being in an already emotional place. It’s hard not to let the weight of feeling like every problem is my fault weigh down on me but I’m chugging along

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    • jam064

      629d

      And remember: no matter what they say, taking care of your brother-and YOU-is not your responsibility. They were the ones who chose to have children. And while it's great if you can help out, they need to work out a schedule where they can handle it without you. That means asking you beforehand if you're able and willing, and not getting upset if you can't, especially if you can't on short notice. Your mom may be away, but when people have kids, their kids should be their number one priority. If your dad can't handle two kids alone, it is your parents responsibility to work out a way that he doesn't have to (and since you're old enough to drive, he really should be capable of that). Whether that means your mother doesn't leave or a family friend/neighbor helps out a bit, so be it. Despite what society tells you, you are not your brother's keeper. You must take care of yourself before taking care of anyone else. Stay strong! ❤️

    • candycane

      627d

      I understand but I think the problem is minimalizing his feelings. That language. He was applying his adult feelings on a child as well.

    • carl1112

      629d

      You are not your brother’s parent. Them placing that burden on you is unfair especially when you are dealing with your own problems. Good on you for setting that boundary.

    • jam064

      629d

      And remember: no matter what they say, taking care of your brother-and YOU-is not your responsibility. They were the ones who chose to have children. And while it's great if you can help out, they need to work out a schedule where they can handle it without you. That means asking you beforehand if you're able and willing, and not getting upset if you can't, especially if you can't on short notice. Your mom may be away, but when people have kids, their kids should be their number one priority. If your dad can't handle two kids alone, it is your parents responsibility to work out a way that he doesn't have to (and since you're old enough to drive, he really should be capable of that). Whether that means your mother doesn't leave or a family friend/neighbor helps out a bit, so be it. Despite what society tells you, you are not your brother's keeper. You must take care of yourself before taking care of anyone else. Stay strong! ❤️

      • uglyweeds

        629d

        @jam064 thank you!

    • DangerNoodle

      629d

      Your doing the best you can atm, so remember to praise yourself for all the little things. I hope your dad will learn to be more understanding :)

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