A close friend isn’t responding to my texts. I asked a mutual friend of ours if she’s mad at me… apparently she decided I must no longer wanted to be friends after one interaction where I was having a bad day and couldn’t communicate that to her, so instead I just “looked mad.” There was no follow up with me, she hasn’t really reached out since then… This is after I previously tried to explain to her that that I’m autistic, to which she responded “everyone is a little autistic.” I’ve texted her four times over a few days, and she hasn’t responded to any messages. This sounds like the most middle school bullshit. I’m 27, and she’s 31. Shouldn’t we be past this by now??


Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • AsterWest


    I'm sorry but I think you were a lot closer to her than she was to you. she invalidated what you told her and is absolutely failing to communicate. she doesn't seem like a great friend

  • j_Bug


    omg that's a nightmare all around, I'm so sorry you're dealing with that! "everyone's a little autistic" yikes 🤢

  • Anura


    Honestly, I think if someone has an issue with you but refuses to respond to your attempts to communicate with them, they're telling you they're not mature enough to handle communicating their issues with people who care about them. It can be hard to open up about stuff, but it seems very underhanded to communicate what's wrong to a third party and then refuse to speak to the person you're upset with when they try to reach out. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I wish I could offer more advice than "I've been there and it sucks" but I can't 😕

  • Otterpop


    i gasped when you mentioned your ages 💀 i get neurotypicals can be bad at communicating at times but the silent treatment at 31 over you "looking mad"? you deserve better

  • MissWilwarin


    I don’t know how long you’ve been friends with her, but if I had a friend who invalidated me and wasn’t open to communication, I wouldn’t want to stay friends with them. There’s only so much you can do from your side.

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