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BigD1969

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I’m trying to stay motivated and not have these uncomfortable feelings of depression! After my girlfriend/mother to our child left us 9 months ago it’s been very difficult to understand why she would leave us? We have a 2-1/2 year old daughter together?

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    • Brute

      673d

      @BigD1969 you as well my friend 🙏

    • BigD1969

      685d

      Thank you and God bless you too

      • Brute

        673d

        @BigD1969 you as well my friend 🙏

    • BigD1969

      685d

      My daughter saw right through her from the beginning and she tried to tell me that she felt like she was just there using me because I have a place of my own I have nice cars that I worked hard for by the way. But she just said she just doesn’t seem like she’s a good person or something about her and she was right I mean I tried to do my best and try to understand and it’s Jess didn’t work out because she just didn’t want to be responsible and understand that there’s a future with this child and a lot of stuff needs to be communicated and so on and so far. And it takes two people nowadays sometimes three to pay the gas darn bills anyways thanks for your time I appreciate it

      • Brute

        685d

        @BigD1969 I definitely understand and agree! Just keep being you and you will not have to deal with regrets! ✌️

    • BigD1969

      687d

      Issues? Didn’t want to be respectful and responsible! She ended up putting our daughter in daycare after seven months and wanted to get a job which led to a year later and her basically being a young 26 years old entitled millennial. I am 52 and expected her to be responsible and to help take care of our child like she wanted but I appreciate pregnant all I kept hearing was that she said she was suffering from postpartum depression

      • Brute

        687d

        @BigD1969 yes issues! She is half your age therefore she is not going to be mature as someone who is older like your age! The most important truth should be just about the child having her mom in her life! Bills are not important to your daughter but the absence of her mother is not good for her! You have to find the root of why she left? A mother who leaves her child is having a huge issue with something! Adding fuel to the fire is not going to make her get better but only push her farther away! So being understanding and patient is in the best interest of your daughter and everyone. You're not married either which makes your girlfriend feel insecure about your relationship which is most likely one of the issues. Everything has to be about the child! There is a reason as to why she left and she didn't tell you as to why?

        • BigD1969

          685d

          @Brute I totally understand that we were talking about getting married in the very beginning but after coming into my home with a teenage daughter she just couldn’t take care of her self and focus on what she needed to do rather than always be concerned about how the teenager was going to feel about her that’s how it started up in the beginning. I started noticing that she just couldn’t take care of or even felt like she wanted to take care of the child from the very beginning. It was a struggle to say the least I noticed that she would rather want to leave and walk out on the child rather than take care of her like mouse mothers do

    • Brute

      687d

      I had the same exact situation happen to me but my wife took my 2 1/2 year old daughter with her and my son that was 14 wanted to stay with me but I told him that he had to go with his mom so he could watch over them for me which was a hard truth I had to make! It was the hardest time I ever had faced in my life! I needed my son to be the man of the house so I knew everyone was safe! Be patient and kind to your girlfriend, she is having some issues and you have to be strong for her and your daughter and yourself! Stay strong my friend!

      • BigD1969

        687d

        @Brute I try to understand her situation and her feelings but also expected her to understand that she needed to take care of her responsibilities and now that we have a child that she needed to really focus on her future and to be there for me as well which included paying rent and bills etc. etc.

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