I don’t know whether or not to feel guilty for: not replying to my bf bc i just want to watch videos and don’t want to talk right now- it’s 5am rn. i ignored him the other night and technically it was fine bc he didn’t know i was ignoring him, but in my head i was like “omg so mean why didn’t you just reply to him earlier” to myself,,, but yeah i feel guilty

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

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  • UnluckyUnicorn


    I’m going through the same thing! It’s not that I don’t care about him but I don’t know, it takes more energy to respond then I have and watching videos is relaxing/what I need. I don’t know if you relate to that but I’m glad I’m not the only one struggling with this. I feel like being guilty about this isn’t constructive or helpful to anyone so therefore you don’t need to feel guilty. You could always text something like you don’t have the energy to talk right now but you’d like to talk to him later when you do have the energy?

  • strawberrysoop


    i get that! i have a tendency to go semi-nonverbal when im tired/overwhelmed (i am still capable of speaking/texting, but it's incredibly exhausting and i avoid it as much as possible) so my girlfriend and i have agreed to communicate with emojis when one of us feels like that! whenever i send a string of hearts or kissy emojis or anything like that with no words or anything, they know that means i can't respond but i love them and i'm not actively ignoring them, im just observing for a while! its helped to stop a lot of hurt feelings and confusion now that i've explained it and how i would like to handle it

  • clownmotel


    don't feel guilty for that! you're allowed to not have the energy or mental capacity to hold a conversation, and not replying to someone you love doesn't mean you don't love them. alone time is really important sometimes, and if you need to be alone, be alone! trying to have a conversation when you're not ready to can be just not ideal overall, so it can be good to wait until you're ready to talk

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