I’m in urgent need of discovering a hobby… just having been diagnosed with ADHD, for as long as I can remember I’ve filled my life so there is as little free time as possible- effectively eliminating the chance for boredom to creep up on me. After leaving an abusive relationship last summer, I’ve realized that my ex had forced me to give up the few hobbies I did have and I no longer know what I enjoy doing when I’m by myself.
What's stopping you from returning to those old hobbies?
having been in the relationship for 2 1/2 yrs, I’ve been wracking my brain trying to even remember what I enjoyed doing. I remember I enjoyed things like competition sports and playing music, but my life has shifted so drastically since that those seem unrealistic for me to do regularly now.
You're in a beautiful time in life where you get to learn about yourself! I'm so happy for you Hun! Abusive relationships are really hard and coming out of them is so overwhelming. But the best part is you get to decide from here. Try many things, do research, if you don't know if you'll enjoy it, try it. Find groups, watch videos, things like that. If you're an athletic person as you mentioned, maybe try a new dance class or workout class. And competitive sports wise, bowling is surprisingly easy to get into competitively.
you know it’s interesting that you mention bowling- my new partner and I have gone a couple times and I’m comically bad at it so that may be something I can practice at.
Im sorry you had to go through an abusive relationship, but I do think making music would help a lot with that if you continued again, you could turn your pain into art even though it's difficult talking about certain topics, but maybe try doing daily walks, working out, maybe even just looking at a river or lake could help some, all you have to do is open your mind to new things 😊
the opening back up is the hardest part I think. I got set in my ways and now it’s just easier to keep busy with work/school/sleep than it is to venture out and try new things again. I like how you framed it as opening my mind though, because doing things while “out of my comfort zone” or “venturing out” sounds like a daunting task, but opening my mind is something that requires mindfulness and a willingness to learn, and I’m 100% down for that.
knitting can be helpful, it can become a semi-mindless task but it keeps hands busy to help ease hyperactivity and can refocus hyper-focuses into something more productive that you can see a physical result of your efforts and can be a good distraction while also allowing the mind to ponder other things
that’s a great idea, I’ll have to look into getting into that again
I feel you. Grew up in not the best household and learned to be a workaholic. Honestly, I'd recommend going through a bookstore or library, watching YouTube or TikTok videos of different hobbies. Maybe look through your local YMCA and see if anything on their calendar does seem approachable
Also, sometimes I stay busy to avoid feeling emotions, and finding a good therapist can be very helpful
Once you're good enough at knitting, it's really enjoyable to knit while watching YouTube videos or movies. Or if you don't like knitting, what about painting? I find painting to be really therapeutic and immersive.
I adore painting and honestly forgot about it until you mentioned it
aside from an abusive reltionship, i relate to the feeling of spending so much time on distractions that you lose your sense of self. also, the prospect of learning or taking up something new and ENTIRELY self-taught and initiated can seem too overwhelming to start.
one thing that i found to be a fun way to experiment with hobbies is going through tik tok and finding various trends and micro communities of people. it feels juvenile, but all social medias have small DIY hack/hobby videos that are great for starting out, and they are usually short so its good for attention span. for example, i saw one person make a mini chandelier out of mini disco balls and embroidery hoops, so now i have a bunch of different wall hangings with disco balls and other cool things.
finding hobbies that i could also do while doing “productive” things (school/work)… so knitting is good or anything you can do with your hands that you don’t always have to be looking at, so your eyes can be occupied doing something else and therefore your brain feels more stimulated
The dollar store has a good craft section. There's nothing super high quality but it is a really cheap place go get stuff to try new hobbies. They have yarn, knitting and crocheting needles, paint, canvases, etc etc
before my ex made me surrender all my time, painting is something I really enjoyed and I got all my canvases at the dollar store!! The comments are unlocking memories of things I enjoyed previously that I had pushed away 💕
I collect hobbies, who knew it was ADHD. Haha. Here's what I've been rotating through lately- woodworking, abstract painting, sewing, knitting, jewelry making, bath and hair products, resin (with the molds), plant mom-ing, singing, obsessively researching random topics, candle making, herbalism. I think that's the main stuff.
I'm sorry that an abusive relationship stole so much from you. As a survivor myself, my heart goes out to you. The positive of escaping is that now you can be YOU and do what you WANT to do. If you have an idea, follow it! Dollar Tree, Walmart, JoAnn, Michaels (with coupons for the last two) make trying out a new creative hobby easy and usually affordable. Follow your heart. I need busy hands so I understand that drive to create. Best of luck and if you have questions about any of my list of hobbies, feel free to reach out.
Good luck in your new and improved life and try it all! ❤️
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