ladybug28

227d

confrontation sets my anxiety off like crazy, especially if I don't know the answers. I can play it off cool at first...but the longer the conversation, the more fidgety and emotional I get. I feel like I'll never have a decent job where I can flourish because of this.

Anxiety (Including GAD)

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  • Idk._o

    227d

    I’m not very good at this and I’m not certified and have little info, but I can tell you from mostly personal experience. I think probably the first thing you need to do is not say you won’t be able to get a good job because of it. There’s many different occupations and careers that can work with or even require some of these qualities. And secondly, it goes along with going to far and not believing your self enough, you just need to not get worked up. I know that’s a lot to ask, but try to calm down or realize what you’re doing. I’m not going to go to far to avoid giving you bad advice, but just do more research, this is a very good start. I’m gonna end it here, but if you need anymore information or advice. I’d be willing to provide what I can, though again, i have zero credentials or certification.

    • ladybug28

      227d

      well, I'm smart enough to recognize what's good or bad advice, so don't worry about that 🙂 I know my strong points mostly and I don't doubt I'd do well...it's the other part..the talking and dealing with people. For whatever reason, people coddled me in a way growing up. They didn't criticize me. I can burst into tears at someone raising their voice, even if I appreciate their words.

      • Idk._o

        227d

        i see so you just never learned how to handle criticism? I don’t really know much but going to a professional is definitely the way to go, even though they’ll give you an honest diagnosis/opinion, I don’t really know. But you may have already gone and it may hurt your feelings but it’s definitely the best option.

  • OuchiePrincess

    216d

    You don’t need to speak well to be a good worker at most jobs. I very much know the insecurity of, “what do I say” and “what if I mess up?” and “what if I get it wrong?” After about 10+ years of therapy I’m learning that my anxiety comes from trauma, abuse, and conditioning. That voice isn’t you! It’s just a feeling! An overwhelming one, to be sure, but it is not who you are. I know it’s a weird concept but most people don’t have an opinion about you. Not until their moment of interaction with you. And usually that moment is brief, and then it is over. And the probability of ever seeing them again is pretty low unless they’re in your community, neighborhood or workplace. Which really narrows the expectations of what you should do and how you should act. You don’t have to please everyone! You don’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to make everyone like you! I know it feels good to be liked but it feels even better to be needed. Just focus on you, whenever you feel your feelings rising and fear building, question if those people are really going to care in 5 minutes. A day? A month? A year? If not, let it go! It takes practice! So practice with strangers first. Start with harmless but perhaps a bit silly interactions. See how you feel afterwards. How is your nervous system? Still nervous, but happier for having made a human connection? Challenge yourself to think past your immediate emotions, like riding a wave on a surfboard. ❤️

  • Drewsdad08

    216d

    I know just how you feel. As I’m getting older, my short term memory is getting much worse. I worked in retail management for 20 years. I was getting so bad remembering important things that I just couldn’t gather my thoughts well enough anymore to supervise my subordinates or bosses. So now I have a job where I don’t have to think as much or manage anyone. I feel so much happier thankfully

  • Drewsdad08

    216d

    I eliminated what set me off!

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