Why We Only Date Other Systems

I feel like this all my singlet relationships haven't worked out and it felt like the DID was a barrier due to them feeling the need to look after us and like we had to educate them all the time. It would be nice to just exist without having to explain stuff all the time and also be less lonely.

One of my littles is a boy, so he doesn't entirely like the idea of being smothered and kissed. Being a female with male alters or asexual alters is difficult. My boyfriend knows I have DID, and he's always been so respectful and sweet to all of us. Trinity loves the idea of having a boyfriend, and so does Katrina, but my real problem is that some of the male alters wanna be dominant oftentimes and hate being submissive 🤣😭 As the host, we spend the most time together as a couple, but my littles always tend to come out whenever we get too close and touchy, so it can be a bit distracting 😅 Thankfully, Katrina takes over most of the time and we're both able to relax for awhile. But it all depends on the situation. When it comes to socializing, it can be a hassle because of how socially anxious and awkward my alters and I can be. I find it very difficult to stay in relationships for that same reason, but I don't wanna end up breaking his heart, so I try my best to keep up with him 😅

I only recently discovered that I have DID... I am in a committed and happy relationship with a singlet only because he loves them as well as me, and he accepts all of us.

We've only been in our current relationship which is sys4sys and I think without the intimate understanding of what this disorder is like, the relationship would've never happened and never held. Also the fact I'm dating an alter and not the host solidifies that it never would've happened. I don't have the same friendships with singlets as I do with the systems i know, they just don't understand. They can't help me as well as a system can.

As someone in their first relationship in another system as a system member, yes. Sys4sys has been the only thing that's worked for us and I think it's totally valid.

I really feel the biggest obstacle for relationships w/ complex dissociative disorders is safety, so I can see why a sys4sys relationship might conquer some struggles with trust that might be present in a relationship with a singlet.