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A424

557d

How do you know if you should move on to a new therapist? I’ve been seeing mine for a year now (2nd one) and she has helped me address and think about certain things more, but I don’t think i’m getting anything from her anymore and not moving forward. She just listens to me talk. A lot of different things combined affects my mental health and I feel so stuck I don’t think anyone can help me. My 1st therapist cut me off after I told him I didn’t think I was moving forward but wanted to continue until I found someone else. I will have to explain everything all over again and that sucks the life out of me. What if i’m one of those people that therapy can’t help? 8 years now with anxiety and major depression…I am hopeless.

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    • PeppermintAnn

      535d

      it is absolutely okay to move on from a therapist that isn't serving you anymore. just like with ppl in our lives, we meet some people to teach us or guide us and then move on. i wish you luck in finding the right fit for you 💕

    • PeppermintAnn

      535d

      it is absolutely okay to move on from a therapist that isn't serving you anymore. just like with ppl in our lives, we meet some people to teach us or guide us and then move on. i wish you luck in finding the right fit for you 💕

    • KGarrett

      539d

      It isnt easy finding a good therapist, I have found some are so jaded. I think like any relationship sometimes it runs its course and you move forward, had a therapist help me with one issue, couldn't with another so I moved on.

    • Actow

      554d

      Talk this out with your therapist, if they are meant to be they will ensure that you are doing well and making progress, no matter how slight you may feel it has been. The fact that you continue going is progress. If they don’t respond positively then you’ll find the right one. They do exist. Also, ask your therapist what your treatment plan is, this can help you two get on the right path.

    • tiramisu

      557d

      For all of you in the same boat, I was too, and then I found the right therapist and it made a huge difference. Yes you may have to re explain everything but the difference will be there

    • imnotsure

      557d

      I’m sort of in the same boat. I’ve been seeing my therapist for 7 years now and we’ve grown a connection but I’m not sure that it is helping anymore beyond just getting to vent. So this means I may be a bit hypocritical, but I suggest possibly switching to another therapist, but maybe staying with the one you have until you can find one that you think could help you, because getting to vent is important too. If you aren’t on medication and you feel comfortable with trying it then I might suggest speaking to your therapist or doctor about how you’ve been feeling and asking for a medication to help. I am on antidepressant and antianxiety meds and they do help quite a bit. I’ve come to realize that despite all this, I may just have to live with the depression and anxiety I still have, just in lesser amounts and learn to cope. So I think learning to cope with what’s happening around you is also a good idea, whether it’s with a professional or a family/friend that you trust

      • A424

        554d

        @imnotsure thank you. I think it’s a good idea to wait until I find another one to end it so I can at least keep talking about things. i’m on an anxiety med which helps a lot, but i’m not open to taking antidepressants due to the side effects and they don’t seem to help most people. maybe i’ll try one in the future. I know that bc it’s severe, i’ll have to learn to live with and manage my feelings, but I know that it could be a lot better since I can’t function well and I don’t know how to get there or if that’s even possible for me. a lot of it is due to past experiences, feeling trapped with what I was born into, being anxious about the future, and understanding the reality of how bad things are. it makes it worse that I don’t have anyone close that’s emotionally supportive

    • smkeaton

      557d

      Set goals!! And find the best therapy that works for you. I started with standard talk therapy but eventually felt this way until I started seeing my current EMDR therapist. In the beginning, I made it clear that it was important for me to have some kind of guideline to show my progress. 8 months later and just today we discussed my goals I had set when we first met. I have achieved some and am still working on others. She also referred me to a psychiatrist who finally diagnosed me with bipolar II and ADHD. Something I had told 2 previous therapists, who I now believe simply weren’t qualified to diagnose me at the time. In short, I know it’s time to change therapists when they are no longer able to help me obtain achievable goals and/or show my progress in a structured way. That’s just what works for me.

      • A424

        554d

        @smkeaton I like the idea of stating goals and measuring progress throughout. I’m not wanting to take new meds right now, but I’m pretty sure I still have undiagnosed conditions due to my symptoms (adhd, autism, bipolar, and my therapist said I might have ptsd). Do you recommend seeing a psychiatrist over a psychologist to be diagnosed? I don’t know if they have more knowledge or qualifications for these things

        • unicorn

          539d

          @A424 the difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist is that a psychiatrist is a doctor who has gone to medical school and specialized in psychiatry. They handle the medications and such. A psychologist has either a masters or doctorate degree in psychology, so they aren’t authorized to prescribe medications. From what I’ve read, any mental health provider with a clinical license has the authority to diagnose. Some therapists mostly “diagnose” for insurance coverage purposes, though. I’ve had therapists like that who focused more on the present than on a specific diagnosis, if that makes sense. They sent the diagnosis to my insurance so they know there is a legitimate reason to cover the therapist’s services, but I didn’t know what they diagnosed me with till I requested documentation later. I think because of that, people usually think that a diagnosis from a psychiatrist is more official, but either one is able to diagnose if they are properly licensed.

        • Chesbro99

          554d

          @A424 either can diagnose you actually.

    • KiniBear

      557d

      I am stuck in the same boat at the moment. I have an appointment soon but I've been frustrated and wondering if I should just cancel. I feel like my therapist and doctor both don't fully listen to me and I'm struggling a lot right now with no meds because doctor keeps changing them without considering situation and nothing is working. It's very exhausting and I understand not wanting to start over but I think it may be best. Don't give up. Maybe take a break but always try to keep looking for answers and moving forward.

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