Trouble Expressing Anger: Feeling Sad and Guilty Instead

There had only been a few cases when I actually stay mad at someone. But most of the time I'll get mad at someone and only an hour later I feel guilty and anxious, even though it might have not been my fault. And I'll not feel mad after and might even apologize. I think that's just how you'll be or you might change as a person in some years. Just gotta deal with it and go with the flow.

The closest I usually get is frustration and overstimulation. I've struggled with being able to feel anger for such a long time I have trouble even processing frustration well and it can feel exhausting

This completely happens to me. I'll get yelled at and I'll just shut down instead of getting angry back. My partner and I joke about how I have passive-agressive road rage because my immediate response is "well that wasn't so nice" and that's the only level of anger I can reach even when another driver almost crashes into us. I'm really upset about it because it feels like it's there, bubling but then it gets shut completely down by guilt. Idk how to help, just another comment saying you're not alone 💞

I am currently dealing with anger issues that manifest in more self destructive ways. I get angry at myself, and take it out on myself. I get angry at people who have hurt me, and take it out on myself. But I keep these feelings locked up. I keep my voice low and try to pass unnoticed. Sometimes I think I've physically lost the ability to scream - as I can't even when I'm alone.

A lot of my abusers were always so angry with me (as abusers tend to do), and my dad’s depression was expressed by being *very* passive aggressive. I internalized all of that, and it’s so hard for me to experience anger. Unlike how a lot of people without mental illness or trauma will subconsciously turn anxiety into anger, it’s the opposite for me. I’ve gotten to where I can usually tell if it begins as anger, but I still struggle to allow myself to feel that instead of becoming anxious and fearful and turning to the fawn response automatically—with everyone.

I constantly run on neutral. I don't know what happy feels like. Instead of angry I'll just end up sad. I feel like I'm missing out on a vital part of being human