It took me years to realize it was actually the muscles in my jaw and not my ear causing the pain that I feel, so I totally relate! The things that have ended up helping me are allergy medicine for congestion and inflammation, and then medical massage of my jaw, physical therapy of my jaw, exercises/stretches to do at home, and muscle balm (sometimes cbd muscle balm)

I got a new one from Lazarus Naturals but I also liked the balm from MuscleMX a lot.

Yep . I’m a TMJ suffer too . I get itchy painful ears spasms around both jaws I can talk or move my mouth spasms . The pain will shoot from my jaw all the up in my ear it’s horrible and sometimes when I eat I’ll get pain my jaw and teeth

I've had TMJD for years and the pain has radiated to my ears and even behind my eyes and neck, feeling like a headache. I try to notice when my jaw is tight and focus on relaxing it and I don't use gum or hard candy, that just triggers pain.