Terrified of Parenting: Hereditary Damage and Mom Guilt

I clearly don't know the issue specifically so its hard for me to comment. I can say not everything that is will turnout as it seems. I to come from a family missing a crap ton of screws up stairs with wonky messed up genetics also. Not all my kids have come out messed up but a few have. I worry everyday that their unsettling choices come from my early parenting and genes bestowed upon me. You have to get to the point where you you can seperate yourself enough from the issue to really look at the situation with clearer insight, like assessing the situation from the outside and working your way in to the core issues. No person or child is entirely lost. There is always hope and room for change. Easy for me to say as i am not you or walking in your shoes but i can say i have been where your at to some degree and still am.