Struggling with Switching: Need Advice

I dont think its possible for every system, but sometimes we Co-Front with our littles and that can make it easier. We can share the body at the same time and communicate a little bit.

Hi! It sounds like it's hard to control, maybe knowing those triggers would help you cope with those switches?

some alters can be caretakers or gatekeepers to control switches. try to use system communication with the littles or the adult alters to try to manage this 💕

Yeah it will take some work but if you give them a general idea of when they can front it gives a positive reinforcement instead saying no all the time. Yeas it does help alot with the anxiety for us. Lot less migraines too

Does it make u guys feel a lot less anxious just letting them switch whenever they want? Bc we get migraines when we hold them back

We think thats exactly the problem bc some people its not safe to switch around thats a good idea so maybe if we tell them its ok to front when we are home and not on the phone

For us it may be different but we just let them most of the time. They've interacted with adults enough that they won't make it super obvious but if we try controlling or fighting it we usually ended up with massive migraines and everyone ends up upset. It helps if you have a significant other to that can help kind of calm things down or go with it so that they don't feel super weird. Husband is really good about that. If it's causes you guys alot of issues I suggest coming up with a system so to speak for them if that happens again. Like who can front when and who is going to keep things under control should they get a little rambunctious so that ultimately when they front they don't front alone. It's helped for us is a few areas. It takes awhile of getting used to mentally but it can be done if everyone is willing to cooperate. But that's just our experience.