Struggling with Self Esteem

The only thing I know for sure is this, that building self-esteem wasn't easy. What I had to do is find out from my family and friends what they liked about me and what talents they thought that I had. I found out that I am and very good encourager! And I am a helper! But I don't like to be in the limelight. You can find out a lot just by asking someone what they thought about you! Try it! It can't hurt

I've switched away from the self depreciating humor as well, and while it's not an instant fix, it definitely helps! Once it becomes a habit, it at least takes away the immediate reaction to bring yourself down. Glad there's other people doing this too 😊

Honestly? The only thing I found useful were things that didnt feel like putting work in. A lot of people say building your self esteem and mental health requires work, and it does, but it shouldn't feel like pulling teeth. If it does your never going to get comfortable with it and it'll never be in your routine so it's just not a method for you. I tried positive affirmations for years it all felt artificial and weird. Instead I made the active decision to change my humor, self deprecating humor was always funny and got laughs but it did make a few people uncomfortable or defensive of me so I decided to change it to sarcastic positivity and eventually, even though I was being sarcastic, it actually helped to hear myself say positive things about myself or my actions/creations.

Hi!! I also struggle with self esteem, and I think increasing it varies from person to person. It doesn’t sound like it would help, but when I do good things for other people it sort of helps me feel better about the person I am. If you’re ever mean to yourself, something I am very guilty of, it sometimes helps to envision yourself as younger you. You wouldn’t say those things to child you, why tell them to yourself now? You’re just as important now as you were then. You’re doing amazing, and when you find what works for you, you’ll know. 💕

I find that if there are people in your life who put you down or who tell you you should have low self esteem for whatever reason or who just help you continue to feel that way you need to cut them out of your life and surround yourself with people who encourage you and lift you up instead.

Honestly just be true to you, in my experience it never goes away but occasionally I’ll think nice things about myself and that’s an improvement. Don’t fake anything for anyone, be true to you and you’ll learn that you are good just the way you are