Struggling with My Therapist: Is It Me or Her?

My point is you should switch therapists

You shouldn’t feel like you’re at fault with you therapist. And they should never make assumptions or treat you based on what they have in mind. My therapist will tell me her gut feelings but then she asks me if that’s how my brain works or not and that’s how it should be. You’re the expert on how your brain works. Don’t let anyone tell you how it works if they’re not right. Idk if that makes sense. I’m high rn 😂

After dealing with psychologists who think they get it but don't really understand a neurodivergent mind, I am finally seeing a counsellor who has ADHD. She is freaking amazing and so good at what she does. I can't tell you how good it feels to talk to someone who totally gets it and can also give you tips on how to get past struggles that I've not been able to get through with a regular psychologist.

I'm a counsellor in training with a specific interest in ADHD and autism and I find it kind of concerning that she's trying to tell you how much a condition affects you instead of trying to understand it from your point of view. If you are "concerned with your labels" then your experience of them has meaning. I can see why if preoccupation with them might be blocking you, she wants to draw attention to that but labels can be really significant and have a lot of meaning personally and in how we interact with the world. I obviously don't know your relationship with her, but would you feel comfortable bringing this stuff up? If not, even after 3 months, it's a sign that maybe it's not the right fit.

Yeah she’s trying to impose herself onto you. Maybe her methods are effective for other people, but clearly she’s not acknowledging how she should adapt her methods to suit you.

I always advise to try and trust your gut - in this case it seems like your gut is telling you she isn't right for you, and I would agree. She seems very uneducated and closed-minded abt autism and adhd, a good therapist should not be dismissing your neurodivergence or telling you it doesn't impact you!!! I'm also AuDHD and I have an amazing therapist who listens and adapts her advice when she suggests something that doesn't work for my brain. Someone you connect with and feel safe with is out there, every therapist is different <3