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Kid

745d

Recently I’ve been struggling with hygiene a lot. I hate it so much. I hate feeling disgusting but I have no energy and so much physical pain and mental exhaustion that I can’t bring myself to shower and take care of myself. When I do shower I feel clean but exhausted and still in pain. It’s so hard to express this to my mom. I promise I’m not lazy and disgusting like she says I am. I don’t know how to explain why something so simple is so hard for me and it hurts.

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    • Sandia721

      739d

      @Kid yay!! Congrats!!

    • Kid

      740d

      Update: I showered :)

      • Sandia721

        739d

        @Kid yay!! Congrats!!

    • Invisible

      743d

      I have been struggling with hygiene too because I am sleeping 14 hours a day and then eating takes what little energy I have. I am also loosing my hair so I am really stressed out.

    • Bumbling_Bee

      744d

      You are %100 valid. Don't listen to your mom, she's absolutely wrong. Hygiene is something a lot of people, including me, struggle with. Showering is technically a simple task, but it can be so daunting especially when you are in physical pain as well. It's a lot of work! You have to get undressed, get in and get yourself clean, wash your hair, get back out and dry off, and then get dressed again. It's a lot of steps to try to deal with when you already have no energy

    • Kid

      744d

      thank you all for your comments <3 these came to me in a horrible time lol it is much appreciated

    • Kid

      744d

      @Sandia721 I feel that completely, honestly ur comment was kinda comforting because I cant believe I’m the only one who has that issue lol. I’ve had full on breakdowns in the shower and it feels so silly. I sit there and wonder how not showering for a week turned into “I want to kill myself” lmao. My mind is frustrating

      • Sandia721

        743d

        @Kid the number of times I’ve had breakdowns in the shower is insane lol. You are definitely not the only one. It does feel silly, but trust me it’s more common than you think it is. Sending love 💜

    • Kid

      744d

      @spacebun definitely it does, it’s been so bad recently because I’ve been unable to go to school because of my issues and I work a remote job :/ I want to break the cycle and get myself back outside and start looking after my hygiene but it just keeps getting worse

    • Kid

      744d

      @Meremomo that’s exactly what I try to do too, I shower right before bed so I can just pass out after and I also like to feel clean in my bedsheets generally, my mom always gets angry about it tho so :/ she always yells at me and begs me to shower in the morning and I try to explain to her that I just prefer night showering

    • Kid

      744d

      @Invisible she has multiple times but will unfortunately not listen to my experience and believe the people who say drinking lemon water will cure it lol. while lemon water is tasty I need professional help and she won’t accept it

    • Sandia721

      744d

      I hear you. I’ve been having the same struggling. I hate to admit it but last time I showered it had been after not showering for almost a week. And I was in so much pain that I was shaking and crying before I even finished. I had to sit down to finish washing my face so I could just get out and be done. It’s awful. And then I wonder why I even bother. But I feel disgusting and lazy if i don’t. It’s such a vicious cycle.

    • Wompus

      744d

      You are not lazy, you have a condition that messes with your mind. Try completing small tasks to assist your sense of hygiene.

    • spacebun

      744d

      I've had this problem. Does it help you to be around people more often? I find when I work jobs when I'm not with people, my hygiene suffers more.

    • Meremomo

      745d

      I feel the same way, showering is the biggest hurdle of my day since it takes up so much energy. I try to shower everyday or at least before I go to bed so that way when I’m already tired, I can just sleep.

    • Donzen

      745d

      Boy do I get that. It’s hard for me as well. It takes effort and I have difficulty standing for any stretch of time so showering is an uncomfortable experience and I am very tired afterwards. Just wish i could call time out on everything and reset

      • My.rn

        745d

        @Donzen i understand what you mean by reset. I tell myself to reset after each step I take throughout the day. I wish the reset was a permanent long lasting one like I think you are referring to.

        • Donzen

          744d

          @My.rn yeah I was referring to a utopian type reset but have no illusions about that but your resetting throughout the day is great. Will try that myself. 🙏

    • Invisible

      745d

      Chronic Fatigue stinks. Have her look it up.

    • Kid

      745d

      @Quinnberly this is EXACTLY how I feel, it’s like my body is too busy simply going through the motions that I can’t bring myself to do anything and I hate it

    • Quinnberly

      745d

      This feeling sucks. The way I describe this to people is that I go into survival or sleep mode. My mind and body are so focused on just existing that I literally can’t find the motivation or energy to do anything else.

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